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Tuesday, March 31, 2009

SCF Family Camp


This was the first family camp held by Subang Christian Fellowship which is SCF in short. I was honoured to be appointed as a committee in co-ordination for all programmes of Kingdom Kidz SCF. My first time ever appointed to do such 'big' job, and it did sound 'big' to me, all my life.... no deadlines, no boss, no meetings, no reports ... never ever had a chance to work in an office.

Thankfully, it wasn't what I have imagined, just some phone callings, email receivings and forwardings... phew!

Not many things need to be prepared though, Evonne and Grace from FGC-JB mother's church, they have all programme arranged, I had just a few things to do, make sure the snacks and drinks supply sufficiently.

Praise the Lord for all had run smoothly, feedbacks were positive and encouraging.

I remember that 4 years ago, I went to a family camp as a teacher's helper, children had to have the 3 days full session, stayed in the hall helping up through the whole camp. My thought now... ( I was quite enjoying that time indeed) it is a camp where the whole family take time off for a weekend away holiday, and we come as a church family, imagine... all the people who come to the camp are those brothers and sisters, such a precious opportunity, we should have enough time for the fellowship instead of merely message.

In the first committee meeting, I suggested to have only one session of preaching in a day, let we come as a family, and spend quality time to know each other more in deep, as well as rest and relax, thankfully quite many of them supported the idea.




So, the programme includes 3 preaching, one in each day, one Dramatition and one family amazing race. I liked the whole idea, I took part of all activities... and therefore came home with an exhausted body, but a refreshed soul!

Here I am with the props I used for Dramatition - Tissue Girl.
Of course ....erghm... our group humbly.. won the first prize.



Monday, March 30, 2009

101 Ways to praise kids

I was raised in the generation where every parent was so 'humble' to admit their kids are good enough, raised under word of 'curse', my parent were raised during Malaysia's 'hard time', their love tank was not filled, and due to Chinese ancient ways of raising kids, for my parents, the feeling of love is so deep and powerful, that it is not always available for verbal expression, or perhaps they are this type of 'Love tank', love for them is deeply buried in the belly...


Love is the glue that binds a family together. I was looking for love, but I did not have the knowledge of what type of lover my parents are, I needed word of confirmation. Everyone looks for love, knowing and sensing that it cements people together, in a most gratifying way. A family is a system, an organization formed by love, in love and for love. If you want to stay in love, tell your loved ones, "I love you" every day.


Saying, "I love you" every day, can become a wonderful habit for building and sustaining a heart filled with love. If you are a belly type lover and you wish to become more verbally expressive, try using "I love you" as a meditative mantra. This may help you develop the habit of saying "I love you" everyday. Keeping your kids' love tank filled. (Keeping Your Love Tank Filled by Paul J. Hannig. Ph.D.)



If you are running out of ideas, here are 101 ways to praise your kids.


1. Way-to-go!
2. You're special.
3. You're on your way.
4. How smart!
5. Good Job!
6. Good for you!
7. You're a winner.
8. Terrific!
9. Great discovery.
10. I trust you.
11. You're exciting.
12. You're so sweet.
13. You make my life complete.
14. You're so heavenly.
15. Bravo!
16. Super!
17. Outstanding!
18. Great!
19. Wow!
20. That's amazing!
21. How nice.
22. That's incredible!
23. You're adorable.
24. Dynamite!
25. Beautiful work.
26. Remarkable job.
27. Nothing can stop you now.
28. You're beautiful.
29. You're one-of-a-kind.
30. You're so creative.
31. Great work!
32. Fantastic job!
33. Phenomenal!
34. You are so important.
35. You figured it out.
36. Hip! Hip! Hooray!
37. You did that very well.
38. Good learning!
39. You're a good listener.
40. You're are so much fun.
41. You're caring.
42. You tried very hard.
43. Wonderful sharing.
44. You're a treasure.
45. Awesome!
46. You're wonderful.
47. You're A-OK!
48. You made my day.
49. Say, "Thank you".
50. You have a great sense of humor.

51. Good!
52. You make me happy.
53. You're incredible.
54. You're on target.
55. Looking good.
56. I knew you could do it.
57. I'm proud of you.
58. Well done!
59. Marvelous!
60. Exceptional performance.
61. You're a real trooper.
62. You are so responsible.
63. What a great imagination.
64. You belong.
65. That's right.
66. Now you've got it!
67. You're catching on.
68. You're on top of it.
69. Nice work!
70. Excellent!
71. That's remarkable.
72. Beautiful!
73. You're precious.
74. Magnificent!
75. Super work!
76. You're a good friend.
77. You mean a lot to me.
78. That's the best.
79. Give them a big hug.
80. You've discovered the secret.
81. You're spectacular.
82. You're a darling.
83. I like you.
84. You're fantastic.
85. Neat!
86. That's good manners.
87. Bingo!
88. You're growing up.
89. You're getting better.
90. You brighten my day.
91. That's perfect.
92. You're such a joy.
93. You're so kissable.
94. You have a wonderful smile.
95. You make me feel good.
96. You work hard.
97. Good thinking!
98. Good planning!
99. You're a good helper.
100. I like the way you did that.

101. Say, "I Love You" – often.


I did these to Gabriel, the result is, he treats you as friend, he will tell you all of his plans, his ideas, his thinking (sometimes very "bising", well, we enjoying the nonsense chat so much, he misses to be home, he misses the time when we spend the time on bed, talking, praying, tickling...


Happy growing.



here is another set of

Children and Family Services - 101 Ways to Praise Kids

Thursday, March 26, 2009

Good Spirit

I am not talking about Holy Spirit, just something make me think about it.

I met a Rev on last Sunday service, HS was so strong that day, my tear shades non stop while I was reading the bible verse, and I did not want my friend knows about this, so I took out tissue slow and stately, put it under my eyes, because the tear shades non stop, not even that, latter... my body shook, goodness, I quickly control it, it subsided after a while, the verse was l John 12:24 - 25. Oh my goodness, God spoke to me!

Then he asked us, anyone who had been prophesied by other that having the gift of prophesy, I raised my hand (indeed I am not sure whether I have it or not, but just had a few prophets said things like this to me) then he walked to me and pray with his eyes open, to proclaim the anointing...

At night I met him again in friend's house surprisingly, he confirmed my gifting, I am fired up! But I told him I have a bad thought, that is "know more, do more" hahaha, he said this is not the problem, just follow the flow of the Holy Spirit.

Awesome to meet him, because that is a jump start for my spiritual growth. Thanks to the Lord, guessed He knows I need this, after long stretch of my "love issue", well this was another precious experience, another awesome deed God has in my life, through this 'issue', I learned that God is in control, God is with me, God listens every thought and every doubt, and His answer is immediate, great is our God.

He also said that I have a "good spirit", this is not the first time I heard that, again, a few times, this time makes me put it into deep thought, of course I feel good each time I heard that ( not pride ), a few questions popped out from my mind.

"Why did they say that?"
"In what way God wants me to know?"
"What kind of quality I have that Holy Spirit prompted them to say that?" ...

And so I did... thinking about these....

And I finalized it with:

Whenever I face problems and temptations/tests, I will do a spiritual 'health' scan every time, and from there I know what happen to me (spirit) in each incident, like 'jealousy', ' pride', ... well these two are my great enemy, I deal with it always....

And then I realized, this is being true to Holy Spirit, means I didn't lie to Holy Spirit what my feeling and what I want, so, every time, no matter where I am, sometimes driving, sometimes reading, sometimes walking, when I found out my problems (that shows I THINK always), I will ask God and deal with it straight away, it takes time to get out from the trap, but I believe these are stepping stones to help me go further and higher!

So, if you want God to help you in spiritual growth, don't cheat Holy Spirit of how you feel, and what you want, tell Him all of you (nakedly), indeed He knows everything...

Happy Growing ...

不要错放了幸福温暖的手...

往往许多人在抉择伴侣时...
容易东想西想,不知所措,就是因为害怕一时做错决定,看
错人,造成终生的遗憾...

爱上一个人不需要靠努力,只需要靠"际遇"

"际遇".....
是上天的安排,但是"持续地爱一个人"就要靠"努力"......

在爱情的经营中,顺畅运转的要素就是沟通、体谅、包容与自制 (面临诱惑有所自制)

若没有培养出经营幸福的能力,就算真的Mr.Right出现在你身边,幸福依然会错过的,而活在犹疑与遗憾当中...

试问....这不就是许多"爱情虚无症"的遭遇与心态吗

若你此刻已有一位长久相伴的伴侣,不要再随便三心二意地犹疑了,我们往往不易察觉感情中的一个陷阱....
那就是"近亲生慢侮",也就是跟你在一起越久的人,就越容易麻木与忽视........

在感情对待中,难免有摩擦与无心的伤害....当然是跟我们在一起最久、最亲近的人

而新欢呢.....
又还没开始有得罪你的机会,再加上他的刻意讨好,所以新欢怎么看怎么可爱,旧爱怎么看怎么讨厌。但别忘了,新欢身上总是有不确定的未知数....

那旧爱呢....
身上就是有难得的熟悉感、确定感、信赖感。千万不要随便在偶然的"际遇"中迷失了自己,错放了幸福温暖的手.

所以要提醒 "情人" 不要太钻牛角尖于寻觅那唯一,应该把精神用在学会经营幸福的能力上...

同时也提醒我们 "弱水三千只取一瓢饮" 若有幸遇到了难得的伴侣,就不要再三心二意了...
因为我们永远不知道一生何时会遇到两万个其中的几个.......

My Note:
Love is not feeling, Love is action, they are so much in difference

just like the bible said, love is action, sadly not many ppl know, not even me, but now I've learned.

Infatuation is auto gear
Love is manual gear- you need to put in effort.

Infatuation does not last
Love endures forever





1 Corinthians 13:4-5
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.



Wednesday, March 18, 2009

A Marriage Made in Heaven

Miracles do happen today even in realm of love.
As Hannah Yeoh recounts, "God is the perfect matchmaker."
Below is the article taken from <asian beacon your contemporary christian magazine> by R Lim

After her win in the last general election, Subang Jaya assembly woman Hannah Yeoh Tseow Suan is crtainly no stranger to miracles.

Filled with faith and a passion to work for society, the petite 29-year political newbie won despite a low campaign budget.

Many would consider this to be her greatest miracle but for Hannah her polls win pales in comparison with her marriage in January 2008, a union she says is "planned in heaven and delivered on earch."

No Ordinary Supper
Initially, I had wanted to dismiss such stories as hogwash. However, after closer examination, I felt compelled to make an exception in this case.

Hannah's story began one evening in January 2007 when a pastor (her classmate in ministry training school) surprised all at supper by prophesying. "He told me that I would receive a marriage proposal in June and my husband would not be Chinese but an Indian who is a man of God," recalls Hannah.

Now, it takes two to tango. At the same time, her future husband Ram was having vision of his own. "For months, I had been having a recurring vision that my wife would preach in church," he recalls. "She would be dressed in white and I can even see the auditorium clearly."

"The Lord impressed upon me that I will be married soon but I didn't know who my wife would be. I met Hannah in early 2007 but our relationship then was platonic," says Ram. While serving together in City Church KL's New Christians Ministry in April 2007, Hannah caught Ram's eyes as she exuded qualities he desired in a wife.

Struggling with indecision, Ram prayed, "Lord, I don't want to choose with my own wisdom. Make it clear to me that she is my wife; so I can receive her as your blessing."

Follow the White Rabbit
Meanwhile, Hannah was beginning to doubt the prophecy. "Logically, a proposal can't happen in June when I'm still single in May," opines Hannah.
Then something dramatic happened.
"I was suddenly consumed by the same emotions I had
every time I saw the vision," he enthuses.
"At the end of her message, everything in the vision had been fulfilled."

However, the "foolishness" of God would prove to be wiser than man's wisdom - events moved quickly to bring these soul-mates together.

When Pastor Mark Varghese, the senior pastor of their church, left for Australia, Hannah was assigned to fill the slot at the pulpit on June 3. He admitted, "I didn't know why, I had never heard her preach but I knew God had directed me to let her speak on that Sunday."

It began as a normal Sunday service for Ram. Sitting in front, he felt happy for Hannah who was dressed in a white top. As she preached, he diligently took down notes.

Then something dramatic happened. Ï was suddenly consumed by the same emotions I had every time I saw the vision," he enthuses. "At the end of her message, everything in the vision had been fulfilled."

Incidentally, Ram had the chance to drive Hannah's cousin, Shelly Yeoh, home after the service and an interesting conversation took place. "Ram told me of the vision that God had brought Hannah to him to be his wife," says Shelly. "That's when I shared that my daughter, Debra Joy Yeoh, Had earlier foretold that this would happen."

With the innocence of a 7-year old, Debra unabashedly told her mother after her first meeting with Ram, that Ram would marry Hannah. Despite being admonished, young Debra stuck to her guns and insisted: "Th\ree plus one is four, right? Rabbits like to eat carrtos right? That 's how sure I am that both of them will get married!"

Serendipity
Shortly after her preaching debut, Hannah was due to fly off to Brisbane to be bridesmaid to her friend Rachel. Determined to act fast, Ram told Hannah to seriously pray about her next step, but he did not divulge what he had seen and heard that day. He did not propose to her then.

Ïknew then I had to make a decision with regards to our relationship," says Hannah. "I prayed for confirmation during the flight and at the end of the in-flight movie, I saw the name Ram in the cast. I dismissed this as a coincidence. As I looked at the flight attendant who was seving me, the name Ram was printed on his tag! However, I dismissed it again!"

When Hannah arrived in Brisband, Rachel told her that her husband, like Ram, had also asked her to pray for confirmation prior to marriage. This struck a chord within Hannah. As she went to bed that night, the words of Isaiah 57:2 flashed before Hannah - the promise of rest and peace for the righteous.

Upon awakening, Hannah was greeted by a surprise gift from Rachel. It came with a card s\citing Psalm 16:6, "The lines have fallen to me in pleasant places'yes, I have a good inheritance."

On her reutrn to Malaysia, as he picked her up from the airport, Ram said, Ï know you're going to be my wife. Go pray about it and once you're certain, let me know."

Praying intently, Hannah asked for a supernatural sign. She received a sign together with scriptural confirmation in the ten days which followed.

"I dreamt one night that I was in my house and everything in the house was black and white," reminisces Hannah. Ït was raining outside but the rain suddenly turned to snow. I felt the Lord speaking to me. I had asked for a supernatural sign like thunder or lightning but that is common in Malaysia. Snow is supernatural!

"I decided to say yes to Ram after the ten days. I asked him when he was going to propose but he answered that he had already proposed when he picked me up from the airport on June 11. That was when I realised that the pastor's prophecy, made over supper in January, had come to pass.

"God was good to me. After all the signs, all I needed was merely an affirmation that I had made the right decision. As we were waiting to tell Pastor Mark of our engagement, I felt the Lord prompting me to read the last chapter of Ruth.

"The name Ram was mentioned at the end and as I continued to read 1 Samuel, I saw the name Hannah. I was delighted to see both our names in the Old Testament - on the same page in my Bible.!"

Epilogue
Referring to the courtship of Isaac and Rebekah, Hannah points out that Ram's attitude was similar to that of Abraham's servant who was constantly asking God for confirmation while looking for a bride for Isaac (Genesis 24).

"The servant not only kept close to God but he chose to act," says Hannah. "He could have just walked away after LRebekah drew water for him and his camels. Similarly, Rebekah had a choice whether she would leave with Abraham's servant or stay back with her parents."

Drawing a parallel to the story,
Hannah says that the challenge is for us
to trust God's providence in every aspect of our lives - including love.


Now happily married, Hannah and Ram are living proof that God does indeed write the perfect script. Hans Christian Andersen could not have written a finer tale. -

Editor's Note
God guides believers in different ways: through His Word, prayer, godly counsel, prophecy, visions, dreams, circumstances and the still small voice. Believers who are "sheep" are sensitive to the Shepherd's voice. Sometimes guidance is dramatic as in Hannah's story but often in may not be so. Whatever the case, it is the peace of God which is the ultimate umpire in the decision-making process.



My Note
The reason of posting this article, is to encourage myself, because I had my vision of future husband in Feb 2008, and God also told a 5-year old boy about this man, and I have seek for confirmation, not once.. not twice... that were many times.... due to my lack of faith, I had three prophecies in this incident, and I was also greeted by a surprise card from someone sent by pos in written God is in control, God is assuring me of this vision, through the months and speak to me whenever I have doubt, whenever I feel upset..... thing still going on, I shall come back with great news.

Tuesday, March 17, 2009

Vincent - Starry Starry Night



Evergreen song, Ben bought an album of Joanna Wang that is released recently, this is one of the songs in her album, love her style of singing, slightly slow in pace and rubato, appreciate her talent.

This song was first published in 1972, is the year I was born, I can't remember when was the first time I heard of the song, I do remember I loved it the first time, though I did not know what it talked about in the lyric, love the guitar arrangement, tranquility dominant the whole song, sad ending indeed....

But as I am listening, I sing along with the lyric in this youtube's owner provide, despite of the name Vincent, I felt deeply inside it is actually uttering the love of Jesus Christ, just not quite agree with the last verse, "They would not listen they're not listening still
Perhaps they never will "
hahaha, so I would changed it to "Perhaps they listen now", guessed you don't mind.


Vincent - Don McLean

Starry, starry night
Paint your palette blue and gray
Look out on a summer's day
With eyes that know the darkness in my soul
Shadows on the hills
Sketch the trees and the daffodils
Catch the breeze and the winter chills
In colors on the snowy linen land

Now I understand
What you tried to say to me
How you suffered for your sanity
How you tried to set them free
They would not listen they did not know how
Perhaps they'll listen now

Starry, starry night
Flaming flowers that brightly blaze
Swirling clouds in violet haze
Reflecting Vincent's eyes of China blue
Colors changing hue
Morning fields of amber grain
Weathered faces lined in pain
Are soothed beneath the artist's loving hand

Now I understand
What you tried to say to me
How you suffered for your sanity
How you tried to set them free
They would not listen they did not know how
Perhaps they'll listen now

For they could not love you
But still your love was true
And when no hope was left in sight
On that starry, starry night
You took your life as lovers often do
But I could have told you Vincent
This world was never meant for one as
beautiful as you

Starry, starry night
Portraits hung in empty halls
Frameless heads on nameless walls
With eyes that watch the world and can't forget
Like the strangers that you've met
The ragged men in ragged clothes
A silver thorn on a bloody rose
Lie crushed and broken on the virgin snow

Now I think I know
What you tried to say to me
How you suffered for your sanity
How you tried to set them free
They would not listen they're not listening still
Perhaps they never will

Vincent lyrics with Chords

Vincent Guitar Tabs

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Librarian 天秤一族

上个星期六的晚上在音乐厅里, 就跟3个朋友聊起了这个话题:"你有多了解我?" 所以每个人轮流说出对对方的认识。
当中, 有人提过说: "我怎么可以与任何人那么的融洽呢?" ; 也说过: " 我怎么好像不太表露自己!",我的解释是(我常常会为一些我所做的解释一番,太无聊了,但我又不可以接受误会的产生,导致我有这个习惯)。。。:"那是因为我可以接受朋友的性格,不管他/她是怎么样子的人,我接受他为我的朋友,我就不会在意她/他是怎样的性格,反正大家是朋友。"

我也不太会解释,因为我也被他弄糊涂了,朋友们, 以下是我刚好在今天的下午收到的电邮当中,一篇关于星座的分析,我其实不太迷星座,但又不得不否认它的准确度,太奇妙了。

它能清楚地描述我-这个自以为简单但又复杂的性格。。。。真的好像我平时都正在做的。。。



天秤座
终极完美分析
优雅的天平在灯红酒绿中微笑转身,顾盼神采,洒脱如同水中的鱼。他们与红酒,水晶杯,晚礼服,钢琴曲是那么的相得益彰,漫不经意的吸引着公众的眼光……
几乎所有人都有这样一种印象:
天平座的人善意、可亲,爱交朋友。于是大家也由此认为天平是群居生物,必然是害怕独处,喜欢热闹的。
但,事实并不是表面看来那样简单。
的确,天平是个和平使者。在公众场合可以很好地调节气氛使之均衡。气氛热烈时,他们会沉静的压住阵脚;气氛冷凝时,他们会运用不着痕迹的轻松幽默化解坚冰。总之他们不会随波逐流去助长气氛的冷热,而是像用天平称量物品一样,加减砝码,使之维持水平状态。
而他们在做这种加减的时候,动作是优雅的,态度是和悦的,看起来漫不经心不动声色。实际上,他们是很有心计的人,尽管众口难调,也可以找到一种万全的方式来使全局和谐起来。
但是这并不是说他们喜欢主宰,只是因为他们看不得失衡,那会使他们如坐针毡。
因此,尽管慵懒的天平座讨厌麻烦,讨厌得要命,他们还是会不由自主地担负起调节的责任。也许正因如此,使得天平在公众场合从未放松过自己。性格使他们承担了不必要的责任,无可推卸。
他们不吝惜金钱,却吝惜自由的时间和安静的休闲时光。像所有风向星座一样,他们喜欢自由,喜欢像风一样谁也捉不住他。
他们喜欢自在独立的空间。就算你是他最好的朋友,也不要老和他粘在一起,你要知道他并不喜欢如此,尽管他不会直接说出来。你也得相信,你的天平座朋友也许半年也没有音信,但是只要一见面,你还是他最好的朋友。因为他就是这种交友方式,你拿他怎么办?
“我懒得……”
这是天平座的口头语。他们懒得出门,懒得聚会,懒得应酬……所以他们并不是很喜欢参加party。倒是宁愿呆在家里上网,看书,画画。他们自身是均衡的,一个人的均衡总比一群人的均衡来的容易。所以他们喜欢独处。
通常,天平座的人会给人一见如故的感觉,因为他们有着温婉的微笑和优雅的举止。对初次见面的人,天平座往往表现出自己最讨人喜欢的一面:善解人意,大方,诚恳,健谈。但是这种热情劲儿不会长久。冷漠何时到来取决于你与他交往的频率。你越是粘得紧,他就冷得越快。因为他们喜欢“君子之交清淡如水”。不是他们不喜欢同伴,而是他们和人交往更多地关注了对方的情绪,总想着照顾对方心情,不要发生冲突,所以感觉像是在工作一样,无法真正的放松。
较之对宫白羊座,天平是另一种独立的个体。白羊是一种外在的独立,内心是热的;天平则是表面看似亲和力很强,内心却是任谁也无法融入的。天平的冷静,连他们自己也觉得惊讶。“我居然如此冷漠!太不可思议了……”他们审视自己的时候,感觉有点陌生。那是因为他们把内心世界掩饰得连自己都骗过了。
他们控制情绪的能力太强了。最亲近的人会感觉到,天平给人不露声色的隔离感,有时会被埋怨“太冷静了,我都不知道你在想什么!”
可是他们不是故意要隐瞒什么,只是出于本能。一个连自己都骗过了的人,你还能要求他对你坦白什么?
他们不喜欢歇斯底里,不喜欢痛哭失声,不喜欢安慰别人也不怎么喜欢被安慰。因为他们懂得,谁也无法真正理解另一个人。
天平,其实是很独立的一个星座。他们在霓虹灯影里微笑,在灯火阑珊处寂寞。他们叫你懂得:孤独的最高境界是繁华。

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Teenage Attitude

How does a happy, cooperative 12-year old boy or girl suddenly turn into a sullen, depressed 13-year old? There are two powerful forces that overtake our kids in the early pubescent years and account for some of the strange behavior that drives parents crazy. The first, is social in nature with incredible pressures being inflicted on adolescents by the peer group. But the second, and I think more important, is hormonal in nature. We can see the effect of these hormones on the physical body, of course. But, something equally dynamic is occurring in the brain. Human chemistry apparently goes haywire for a few years, affecting mind as well as body. This internal upheaval will motivate a boy or girl to do things that make absolutely no sense to the adults watching anxiously on the sidelines. There’s a tendency for parents to despair during this period of transition. Everything they've tried to teach their sons and daughters seems to have misfired for a couple of years. Self-discipline, cleanliness, respect for authority, the work ethic, even common courtesy may look like lost causes. But there's good news. Better days are coming. I promise. That's why, perhaps, the very best advice I can offer at this time is: don't look too quickly for the person your child will become.
Dr. James Dobson for Focus on the Family.

Sunday, March 8, 2009

Alexis Jazz Bistro with friends

Alexis -

You'll find stylish, warm, award-winning interiors as you walk into the premise. It is a Jazz bistro located in Great Eastern Mall - Ampang.

We've come for the Jazz Trio, impressed by the pianist Michael Veerapan's virtuosity, and the single Sylvia Howard, though I was not quite know-how-to appreciate her way of singing, I love the swing rhythms that played by Michael Veerapan's Trio rather.

We were there at 9:30 sharp, thanked God for the smooth traffic and everybody being punctured to the date. I was excited to be there as Grace told me it is a nice place, and they have good musician from around the world, cover charge is RM25, that is quite reasonable for a concert tickets.

We had Sarawak Curry, a set of sandwich, and two jugs of beer, that's all for the night.

Dawne was in Alexis, and she actually knew Alexis by reading my facebook status, she loved the place, hope we'll go together one day, yah!

The night filled with talkings, laughing, drinking and eating. Grace were there having dinner with her music school colleague, she was the one told me about tonight is played by Michael Veerapan, a famous pianist. She join in for a short moment of talk and fellowship, those pictures were taken by her, how sweet she is!

用傷疤做勳章 (網路文章)


走在林子裡,你若仔細觀察,會發現幾乎每一棵樹的樹幹上都有疤,愈是年老粗大的樹,幹上的樹疤就愈多。樹疤是怎麼來的呢?也許是哪個冬天,遇上冰風暴,枝上結的冰太厚重,整枝折斷掉落,枝與幹分離的地方就出現了傷口,日久結成疤;也許是夏日午後一個雷當頭劈下,把部分的枝幹削去了,留下了大片的疤痕。也許是某個秋天旅人走過,用小斧劈下一枝作枴杖,留下了傷痕;也許是蟻侵蟲蛀,讓樹幹成了啄木鳥光顧的對象,出現了疤洞後,又被貓頭鷹據以為家;也許是它的枝條妨礙了人們行走,被人折斷鋸掉,留下了斑剝或齊整的疤口……

原本應當是圓整光滑的樹幹出現了疤痕凹洞當然不好看,可是有什麼辦法?它無法拒絕外來的打擊,只有在默默承受後留下受苦受難的標記。人也一樣,由不得我們拒絕命運的打擊撥弄。談戀愛時無奈的受挫、工作時遇到大環境的不景氣、各種疾病的侵擾……都會給我們帶來創傷,好不容易讓時間撫平了傷口,總也留下永難磨滅的傷疤,就像電視藝人阿亮說的:「凡走過必留下痕跡。」

衣服解開,是戰爭時留下的斑駁彈痕,是工作時不小心受傷留下的狹長傷疤,是小時候種牛痘預防天花所留下的痘疤,是切除腫瘤以保命所留下的縫合疤痕;胸膛解開,是在痛不欲生的失戀打擊下一顆傷痕累累卻無怨無悔的心。

是的,傷口會癒合、痛苦會過去,但是疤痕永遠在那兒,標示著曾經受過的苦難折磨。樹幹上的疤痕雖然觸目驚心,可是卻無礙於老樹認真積極的求生意志,那樣自愛自尊,努力活出自己更美好的一生,在春天讓雪白桃紅的花朵綴滿一樹,在夏天讓婆娑的綠葉迎風起舞,秋天來時,又幻化成金黃血紅盡情地燃燒著生命,而後在冬雪覆蓋前悄然墜落,以質樸高貴的本相昂然矗立在蒼茫的天地間,任風雪冰霜來襲,傲然不為所動,只靜靜地耐心等待著下一個春天。

劈過木柴的人都知道,結疤的地方也就是木幹最硬的地方,他處一斧頭下去也許就劈成兩半了,若斧頭落在樹疤處,保證像碰到石頭一樣,不但無可奈何,還會震得你虎口發麻,隱隱作痛。這就是傷疤的作用。它是尊貴的苦難標記,更是嶄新的堅固堡壘。傷過以後,它就再也不會受傷了,成了身體最堅硬的部位,讓我們可以更頑強地面對人生,迎接挑戰。

樹疤讓我想起了一位德國哲學家的話:「凡是殺不死我們的打擊,都使我們變得更強壯。」



This is encouraging, sister Jasinta also shared about being a wise woman co-incidently this afternoon (2nd service of SCF), women should:

  1. Admit our sin (our problems, character)
  2. Stop sinning again (nagging, complaining)
  3. Forget sin (don't carry old history, face tomorrow)
That helps me to see my problems and with solution.
First, like the Mary Madelene, where priests and people accused her of committed adultery, Jesus didn't say a word but scribble in the sand, he wrote: "who has not sinned, throw the first stone" The crowd went off.

Mary Madelene admitted her sins, and she stopped sinning again, then she walked with Jesus, she live a new life, she accepted for who she was and who she is now... she forget her passed, and serve the Lord whole heartedly, that is what we could learn from this woman.

A precious lesson God has ever wanted us to learn.


Give thanks to the Lord for he is good.
Psalm 107:1.

Monday, March 2, 2009

Who's at fault for bad kids?



Whose fault is it when a child goes bad? Who gets the blame when adolescents skip school, or spray graffiti on a bridge, or begin to experiment with drugs? In the opinion of some people, parents are inevitably responsible for the misbehavior of their teenagers, and certainly, many deserve that criticism. Some of them are alcoholics, child abusers, or they otherwise damage their kids in some way. But I think it's time we admitted that the sons and daughters of some very loving caring parents can go wrong too. Only in this century have we blamed every misdeed of the younger generation on the mistakes and failures of their parents. A hundred years ago if a kid went bad, he was a bad kid. Now it's the fault of his dear old mom and dad who mishandled his childhood. Well, maybe; and maybe not. Teenagers are old enough to make some irresponsible choices of their own, and they must share the consequences of their mistakes and failures. Am I trying to take bad parents off the hook and make them feel better for their shortcomings? No. But I do want to speak on behalf of those good-as-gold moms and dads who did the best they could and still got an unpleasant surprise from junior. They deserve a pat on the back, not a slap in the face.
Dr. James Dobson for Focus on the Family.

Sunday, March 1, 2009

Relationships - Infatuation, Lust or Love?

Many young people confuse love and infatuation. Understanding the difference between these conditions may save teens much pain in relationships. The intimate and powerful nature of sexual intercourse demands commitment. The best context for sexual commitment is marriage. So often premarital sexual relationships are based on physical lust or infatuation, not mature unconditional love.


Definition of Infatuation: - like a mist spray
An unrealistic or extravagant love or admiration appealing to the senses and impulses, sometimes called lust. Infatuation may be the initial attraction that will, with time and commitment, grow into a mature and unconditional love.

The word love is used so loosely in the English language that perhaps the best way to define love is by what it is not. Infatuation is not bad, it is just not good enough to carry a relationship over the rough times. The condition of being ïn love" or more accurately, "in infatuation" may be the beginning of a relationship. For romantic or sexual love to last, the general qualities inherent in personal character are needed -- patience, respect, consideration, protectiveness, trust and trustworthiness, hope and loyalty.

Definition of Lust: - like a firework, once lit can't be stopped.
Intense sexual desire or appetite, an overwhelming desire, as in lust for power. A sexual urge or physical impulse.

Definition of Love: Like a humpty dumpty - with a strong foundation.
Devotion based on commitment and unselfish concern for one another. It freely accepts another in loyalty and seeks his or her good. In sexual relationships, a sexual attachment is formed that adds to the commitment.

The Power of Friendship
Most relationships start with an attraction.
However, attraction cannot be the only thing that sustains a relationship. Strong relationships need strong friendships based on respect, honesty, self-control and trust. Teens place great value on their friendships, but often overlook friendship when it comes to dating and relationships. Infatuation comes and goes, and so do our youthful looks as we age, but a lasting relationship is built on qualities that outlast physical appearance.

No Apologies®

I was trained in the year 2006 March, and have been given many seminars for SMKs, private secondary school, colleges, as well as churches. It is real encouraging to see them making wise and important choices for their life. Some how there were still some cases that upset me, some will just choose to walk away in the middle of the seminar, some will not change their mind, and some 'don't care' attitude. Truely understand this is beyond my control, just try my best to explain and tell them the truth. I did some copy and paste from focus on the family web site some selective information regarding No Apologies®.
Participants actively taking part in a HIV/AIDS quiz

SMK Jinjang 30 April 2008

Program Description & Objectives

No Apologies® is a character-based abstinence curriculum that helps young people make wise choices regarding high-risk behaviour, including sexual involvement before marriage. The curriculum deals with the value of the individual, marriage, the family and the importance of keeping ourselves pure for our future spouse.

The objectives of the No Apologies® curriculum are to help participants:

  1. Understand the value of character and abstinence leading to healthy behaviour
  2. Identify clearly the consequences associated with premarital sexual activity
  3. Recognise the relationship between love + sex and the benefits of saving sex for marriage
  4. Practice skills necessary to achieve the goal of abstinence from premarital sexual involvement

At the end of the workshop, participants are challenged to sign a pledge card saying they choose to wait and save sex for marriage. They are asked to defy popular culture by holding on to their virginity with pride, and at the day of their wedding, to proudly present the signed pledge card to their spouse, saying “I waited for you.”


What does No Apologies® cover?

Curriculum Summary

The No Apologies® curriculum consists of seven units:

  1. The Video – After viewing the video, the facilitator facilitates a discussion with students about the key messages from the video. In Unit One, students begin to explore the reasons why teenagers engage in sexual activity.
  2. Healthy Relationships – The key message of Unit Two is that we are unique multi-dimensional human beings (emotional, physical, social, ethical and intellectual). Students begin to see themselves, and others, as multi-dimensional. The connection between conduct and character is emphasized. Students set dreams about their future and also set goals to accomplish their dreams. The facilitator facilitates discussion on the obstacles to reaching goals. The class learns about the role character plays in fulfilling dreams. The power of friendship is emphasized.
  3. Media Literacy – Unit Three examines the influence of media on teens. Students practice critical thinking and evaluate the influence of media in advertising, music, music, TV and the Internet.
  4. Premarital Sex Has Consequences – In Unit Four, the critical message of the consequences of pre-marital sex is discussed. Unit activities and discussion center on sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), to include HIV / AIDS. The lessons bring understanding to sexual progression and drawing boundaries, decision-making, the consequences of pre-marital sexual activity and dispelling the myth of “safe sex”.
  5. HIV/AIDS: A Generation at Risk – In Unit Five, students will learn how HIV/AIDS is transmitted and how it affects the body. They will gain insight into the pandemic’s impact on the world’s youth and about safe and risky behaviors.
  6. Abstinence. It Works Every Time – Unit Six defines abstinence and underscores the benefits of self-control and abstinence. Students practice refusal skills against negative peer pressure and learn to create safe boundaries. Also highlighted in Unit Six is the relationship alcohol and drugs play in peer pressure, date rape and in keeping commitments to their dreams and goals. Students who have been sexually active are encouraged to begin again with an abstinent lifestyle by postponing sexual activity until marriage.
  7. Marriage Matters – Unit Seven allows students to confront the question, “How do I know the timing is right?” The facilitator leads exercises on finding the right marriage partner and solving problems in relationships. The point of the lesson is that many marriage problems can be avoided by the decisions made prior to marriage, including the decision of whom to marry and the benefits of postponing sexual activity until marriage.

No Apologies® Workshops

They do have special training program to train up more volunteer, please do not hesitate to contact them for the next training.

No Apologies® Training Of Facilitators

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