Growing Kids God’s WayTouchpoints of...

Growing Kids God’s Way---Touchpoints of Love for your Children
Designed by Gary and Joy Hanson

Do you know each family member’s love language? Here is an exercise that we want you and your kids

to try. Within each group, rate the sentence 1 to 5 according to what would make you feel most

appreciated and loved. The number 5 represents what you most appreciate; number 1, in contrast, is what you least appreciate in each group. (No individual grouping can have a number repeated twice).

Group One
A_________________ Mom or Dad says, “You really did a great job on that. I appreciate it.” B__________________Mom or Dad unexpectedly created a study table/office for your exclusive use in the house.
C__________________Mom or Dad brings you home a surprise treat from the store. D__________________Mom or Dad invites you to MacDonald’s for ice-cream and to talk. E__________________Mom or Dad makes a point to give you a big hug and kiss you before you leave the house.

Group Two
A__________________Mom or Dad brings you home a special food treat from the local hawker stall. B__________________Mom or Dad volunteers to type your project for you so you won’t have to. C__________________Mom or Dad gives you a hug even when you were just passing by room to room. D__________________Mom or Dad invites you to sit down and talk about your day. E__________________Mom or Dad tells you how much he or she appreciates you.
Group Three
A__________________Mom or Dad helps pack up your room.
B__________________Mom or Dad holds your hand as you walk through the mall or stands by your side with an arm around your shoulder at a public event.
C__________________Mom or Dad, during a party, shares about how proud they are of you. D__________________Mom or Dad surprises you by buying you the very thing that you have wanted but have not mentioned.
E__________________Mom or Dad set aside time for a special afternoon trip with you.

Group Four
A__________________Mom or Dad will personally drive you to an event instead of you having to go on the bus or MRT.
B__________________Mom or Dad surprises you by giving you a mobile phone. C__________________Mom or Dad made milo for you when you had to stay-up late to rush for a project. D__________________Mom or Dad praises you about one of your special abilities. E__________________Mom or Dad plans a special night out for the two of you.

Group Five
A__________________Mom or Dad gives you a back rub.
B__________________Mom or Dad sends you something special through the mail. C__________________Mom or Dad learns how to roller-blade so that they can roller-blade with you. D__________________Mom or Dad tells how much his or her friends appreciate you. E__________________Mom or Dad helps you pack your luggage for your trip.
(Transfer your scores from your test questions to the scoring profile below)

Encouraging Acts of Gift-Giving Quality Touch & Words Service Time Closeness
Group 1 A_________ B_________ C_________ D_________ E_________
Group 2 E_________ B_________ A_________ D_________ C_________
Group 3 C_________ A_________ D_________ E_________ B_________
Group 4 D_________ C_________ B_________ E_________ A_________
Group 5 D_________ E_________ B_________ C_________ A_________
Totals _________ _________ _________ _________ _________

Compare your score with your parent. Write down from the primary to the least of the love languages of each family member.

Child’s Mom’s Dad’s Sibling’s

1. ______________ ______________ ______________ ______________

2. ______________ ______________ ______________ ______________

3. ______________ ______________ ______________ ______________

4. ______________ ______________ ______________ ______________

5. ______________ ______________ ______________ ______________

Love Language Test for Children