Holy Calling

For those who had missed the first session of SCF Praise and Worship Training by Pastor Jacinta, here is a short note about it, can't share it as detail as Pastor Jacinta, but something very important to know as part of the 'Holy Calling'.

Worship - reverence. You can't worship in any other way. There is reverence in worship because we see Him as He is. Worship is us giving of ourselves.

Before everything starts, Pastor Jacinta asks us to read Numbers 3, so please read this before the next session comes.

Who are in this "Holy Calling" field?

1. Song Leader
2. Psalmists
3. Musicians
4. Tambourine Dancers

"Call to Worship"

Praise and worship team is a Holy Calling, a group of people who are set apart, Levites in old testament, were the chosen tribe, Deuteronomy 10:8 says, "At that time the Lord set apart the tribe of Levi to carry the ark of the covenant of the Lord, to stand before the Lord to serve Him and to bless His name until this day."

We, as part of praise and worship team, are the Holy Calling ones, to be set apart and chosen as His priests, we are given with God's power to bring down enemies strength, to stand in the gap for God's people, to prepare the way, to prepare the hearts of the congregation, to prepare the congregation to receive the Word of God, to break down walls (Walls of Jericho), focus heart, focus mind, Draw the congregation into the Presence of God, to call for worship, "The Power of Praise and Worship".

The heart of every one has to be cleansed by God's grace, to set yourself apart from sins, discourages, doubts, condemnation......etc. We might be in a need of healing, deliverance, we have problems, struggles etc., when we start to worship Him, it will bring to a change of our focus back to Him, in His presence is all we need. Worship is an action, remember it is not just singing songs, worship is a sacrifice and it is a laying down of our lives, our wills, feelings and we say by bowing before Him. Heart attitude, the outward action should be a reflection of what is going on on the inside that He is our King, we are not our own. A relationship needs to be built daily.

It is definitely very awesome, to see lives transform through praise and worship, therefore confess your sins, praise Him for He is our King, He is great, worship Him with our hearts, let us sing together in unity, with one voice!

Let the sick say: 'I am healed.'

Let the weak say: 'I am strong.'

Let the blink say: 'I can see.'

Let the bound say: 'I am free.'

Let the poor say: 'I am rich.'

Let the lost say: 'I am found.'

Worship is a lifestyle, an offering to God.

Happy serving.

Link about Praise and worship

See Good things in a hassle.

Thursday morning, clear sky, wonderful breakfast me and Gab had had. The moment I went to my car (brother's car) and found back tyre went flat, kind a panic at that moment, I do not have time to fix it, have to send Gab and another 2 boys to school. While hurry them into my car, and sort out a solution.

Tried to fill gas in at petrol station near by, but can't work, then went to my brother's house to take his car to send kids to school. Due to mum went out for exercise couldn't get her to fetch me back, therefore I walked home in the morning, lesson starts at 8am, phew.... what a hassle.

As I post my status in facebook as:

A day starts with hassle, found out one of the tyres went flat early in the morning...

I got the first comment from Daniel: Don't just see the evil around you. See the good that God is already doing!

Here I go, the first good thing is 'I SAW It' was punched. After morning session, I used to have one house-call student, that I need to give lesson at her house, the parent sms to cancel today's class, the 2nd good thing God has made.

Then I sent the car to the workshop just near by, the tyres have to replace due to the age of usage. This car is belong to my 2nd younger brother, he had an accident earlier, the front bumper and other's part were missing inclusive of number plate, indeed I was quite worry whenever I am driving, but... it is really better than no car! I have classes everyday, just can't imagine cancel all my classes... for weeks. So, after got his permission, I ask them to fix all together for him, 3rd good thing God has made, why did I say that, because I am helping my brother to settle his problem, counted as one good thing.

Thursday is the busiest day, classes after another at HOME, isn't it God is so good? If this the tyre get punched on another day, I would have to cancel class and might not be able to fix it for my brother, and if it is punched tomorrow, even worst.... tomorrow is Wesak holiday, all my holiday plan ...burn! the 4th good thing God has made.

I choose to praise God, because it is said:

Give thanks to the Lord, for He is good, His love endures forever.

Psalm 136:1

我需要一个'好记性' 之万灵药。

肉体受伤，需经过清洗，消毒，包扎与服药，无论是口服或是外敷。心灵的创伤，由情感的受损开始，魂里的挣扎，心灵开始受到波动，就好比是人体的免疫系统受到外来病菌的侵犯，身体开始抵抗病菌，抗胜了也难免气血亏虚, 体力衰弱, 在康复期中需要选用一些补药调理.

抗病期间,真需要身边的朋友帮忙与探望,好让心情不那么沉重。心灵创伤后要恢复得快，还真吃力哩！要靠多方面的努力，首先必须要有一个好记性，要记得看好的，听好的，想好的，讲好的，做好的。

看 - ‘记得’阅读物的选购与选读很重要，对的文章有助于我们改变观念.

听 - ‘记得’听一些好的建议,‘记得’远离一些带有消极思想的朋友，不是叫你与他们绝交，只是暂时远离。

想 - 当你‘记得’看好的，‘记得’听好的，多多少少会使想法带来改变，从而取替你旧有的观念。

讲 - 生死在舌头权下，让我们有智慧地选择讲好话。

做 - 是一种选择，说清楚一点就是需要‘记得’努力不断去做这个选择，即使偶尔不习惯，但继续的做。

若我每天'记得'服用这些补品, 就能缩短康复期,我的忍耐性不够强,有时候想要赶快复原,所以想到只吃些止痛药就可以了,可是身体免疫系统还是弱不惊风,常常感冒，不能根治。不喜欢常常生病的感觉，所以这一次必须要调理好以至根治。

善忘是我最大的缺点，我需要一个'好记性'， 好让我百战百胜。

一个'好记性' 之万灵药。

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I knew about Snow Lotus from HK series, and learnt from the story that snow lotus could heal almost all the diseases and sicknesses, but never knew how true is true from a story. After so many years, and have came across to this enzyme recipe, and have seen many testimonies, it is really worth the trying, moreover my mom is making it for all of us :p, so here I am.

Me and my family have been consuming this enzyme for around half a year, my mum making it for many of our relatives and friends, people around us, and most find it works wonderfully to improve their health condition. And as I searching for more details of it, and wanted to put up the recipe my own, and I found a blogger has posted up the making with nice photos instructions, here is the site:

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thanks to wlst for his kind sharing.

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Praise with one voice

Attended SCF Worship Seminar titled: "Sacrifice of Praise", it is a 2-session seminar, today was the 1st part of the whole seminar; the seminar started at 1pm after Sunday service, which adult, youth and KK praise and worship teams attended, from as young as 6 years old to as 'young' as 05 (better put in reverse way, Oops!), hosted by Pastor Jacinta.

The most happy thing is my Gab now is serving together with mommy~ say cheese! I told him I am proud of him and praise God that we able to serve God in the same ministry.

In the seminar, we learned 'What, why, how and when?' about Worship, the role of worship leader, psalmists, musicians and dancers.

To be able in one of the team, we've got to know it is a 'Holy Calling'. One of the thing that brew me was "Singing with one voice", and I knew from music theory 'one voice' meant playing together, more prescribe as rhythmically and melodically, and I did remember when I was in symphony orchestra, the conductor Mr. Ota said about playing in unity, none of our instruments should stand out from one another, we should try our best to emerge our notes into the piece, that is what I understand. But talking about it in praise and worship I really have no idea how to explain it clearly, because it is not only about the notes, counting, but it is also about spirituality, and I am not that spiritual, when I play piano accompaniment, I am more particular on the harmony, counting and intonation of those psalmists, sorry to say that, but I am still ok with you guys.....

And as soon as I got home, I google about it, many articles again..... and I found one, and it is:

With One Voice	Sunday, May 23rd, 2010
by David S. Lampel People who share the same focus will always sing in unison. Individuals become a family by having something in common. In the case of human relation, it is the blood flowing through their veins that binds them together. But in the case of the family of God, it is the blood flowing out of the veins of Christ that does the binding. A person may be drawn to participating in a choir by a love of singing_but it is that man or woman's love for Christ that will keep the song in his or her heart. So how do we sing in unison? Singing in unison (as used here) does not mean everyone singing the same note. What it means is that we all agree on who is to sing to whom we are singing why we are singing The answers to each of these can be found in Psalm 148. First, who is to sing? After itemizing every created thing, including the sun and moon, fire and hail, snow and clouds, the Psalmist continues his list with . . . kings of the earth and all nations, you princes and all rulers on earth, young men and maidens, old men and children. -Psalm 148:11-12 NIV The point? Every person on this earth is to be praising the Lord. The second question_to whom are we to be singing_is answered by the first three words of the Psalm Praise the Lord! -148:1a Can we emphasize that too much, or too often? In this scattering world of distractions and false truth, can we hear too many reminders that it is the Lord who is to be the sole object of our praise and worship? When the choir members arrive for practice, when they troop in on a Sunday morning, when musicals are staged and rehearsed and performed_the desire of every heart should be for the Lord. The focus of every thought, every intent, should be on the Lord. Finally, why? Verse 13 answers this. Let them praise the name of the LORD, For His name alone is exalted; His glory is above the earth and heaven. -148:13 NKJV Why? Because only the Lord's name is exalted_literally, "set on high"; it is only His glory that stands above earth and heaven. With one voice. What unity and strength there is in joining our voices as one, in praise of the One, the mighty God of heaven, the only one worthy of our praise. In unison. From In Unison, by David S. Lampel. Used by permission.

You see, I really do not know how to explain it well enough, I am blessed and this article is simple enough to say all that we need to know.

Happy serving!

Sometimes he could be that considerate

Gab will have to stay home sometimes, I will pack him lunch. And this year, I enlarge his territory of service, he has to wash his dishes after lunch, his bottle, Tupperware that he brings school for snack, and also his school shoes.

Some of the days I will be quite busy, that are the days that he has to do all this, he has no complaint. One afternoon, he phoned me that he would like to cook instant noodle as his lunch, I understood as that day, the lunch was really tasted 'no appetite', so I let him cook and urged him to be careful when cooking. (Don't worry, this is not his first time of cooking)

That very night when I came home, I saw that everything had been cleaned and well kept, oh deep in my heart I felt comforted and encouraged, sometimes he could be that considerate. My sweet heart melted.

这样的女人真叫男人沉重。

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有这样一种女人，她们很傻。貌似很花心，其实很专一；貌似很坚强，其实比谁都要脆弱；貌似很开心，可是笑容背后的哀伤谁又能懂呢？

其实很多时候，这一类人都是在自我折磨。明明很爱很爱对方，却宁愿心痛的死掉，也选择放手。然后转身离开，任眼泪随意放肆。

其实很多时候，这一类人很好懂。她们很害怕孤单，因为一个人的时候，她们会胡思乱想，她们会想起那个没有结局的故事，会想起那个模糊却又清晰的脸庞；因为一个人的时候，她们会觉得很没安全感。她们的要求总是那么的低，只要爱着的那个人陪着她们就好。

其实很多时候，这种女人都很敏感，都很容易猜疑。一个眼神、一个动作，都会让她们神经兮兮一整天。所以不要让她们恐慌，不要让她们伤心，如果爱她们。

其实很多时候，这一类女人都在感伤。不是她们多愁善感，只是容易触景生情罢了。她们喜欢用文字来刻画她们的心情，这也是她们的一种寄托方式。

其实很多时候，这一类人都处在矛盾之中，是继续，还是暂停；是放弃，还是坚持。看似感性的她们，却往往于最后让理性驾驭整个思维。

其实很多时候，这种女人害怕看见别人的甜蜜，不是嫉妒，只是会觉得和以前的自己好像。然后会陷入整个回忆，待过往的疼痛唤醒自己的意识，再一个人慢慢舔舐自己的伤口。

其实很多时候，这种女人都很执著，有时候不明白她们在坚持着什么。她们是在期待那个没有结局的故事的结局还是在等待更大的伤害？她们就是傻，爱上了，就会像个洋娃娃，任意被摆弄。

这种女人，缺点太多，脾气太臭。有点任性，而且敏感多疑。所以要么不要靠近她们，要么就用真心对待她们。因为她们的心脆的，很伤不起。

Jane's Note:

有人说这样的女人真沉重，有人说这样的女人太可怜了。我觉得她们虽执著，但她们不勉强，她们也许敏感多疑但她们不爱争执，她们或许脾气太臭（因人而异）但她们喜爱和平。也有说她们虚伪，爱假装，但我说她们不喜欢把自己的情绪加在朋友的负担上，因作为人着想。我们可以说这样的女人可怜，可以改变她们的宿命吗？可是这就是她们，我们应当接纳她们，她们需要我们的真情看待，关心与鼓励多于同情。

爱上这样的女人真叫男人沉重。

别那样想这样的女人，真的那么沉重吗？真想多了解一下，因为我觉得自己就像上属所写的那副德性。 唉，怎么开始感觉有点儿沉重起来。。。

如何面对残酷的真相

作者：熊玲 时间：2010-3-25 浏览次数：32

文/熊玲 心理咨询师 成都蓝天心理咨询中心

经典的残酷真相之案例，是索福克勒斯的《俄狄浦斯王》，俄狄浦斯因破解了“斯芬克斯之谜”解救了受苦的底比斯百姓，而成为了底比斯的国王，并娶了原国王的遗孀伊俄卡斯特。几年之后俄狄浦斯才知：他是被做国王的亲生父母所弃，他无意中杀死的人是他的生父，他娶的国王遗孀正是他的生母，他的4个子女既是他的儿女，也是他的兄妹。当得知这系列残酷的真相后，俄狄浦斯戳瞎了自己的双眼，过着逐放的生活。这虽然是古希腊的神话故事，但生活中充满着类似的残酷，甚至有比这更残酷的真相。

看来，惟有残酷真相才是伤害人的。惟有真相的残酷性，能使人懂得什么叫“现实的无情”，使人能理解为什么有人宁愿活在假象里，为什么有那么多谎言生存？为什么有人会誓死守护秘密？那么，面对残酷的真相，我们能做些什么呢？

现实中那些无可回避的真相

人的生命意义，或许是对真相的追寻。不然，怎会有总也寻不到理想答案的“我是谁，我从哪里来，我该去何处”之类的人生询问？怎会有诸如“华南虎事件”的穷究真相的执著？真相，或许是人行为的动力。

　　的确，人们总是在一次又一次的瞬间，或遇一次又一次意外的契机，发现一个又一个真相，而感到人生的精彩和美丽。也的确，真相并不总是美好的，有些甚至是我们无法面对和接受的。这本身就说明，真相的本质是悖论。

人们渴望真相也恐惧真相，正是真相具有的特异性。人性本善，天生就喜欢真善美、拒绝虚伪和残忍。如果说，生活里存在残酷的真相，那一定是真善美的东西被太多虚伪所遮蔽，被残忍的攻击所伤害。这是否又说明，人性本恶的存在呢？

　　我们见识了诸如这样的残酷真相：

　　·一个母亲在逼促儿子结婚之时，才得知她视为“命根”的儿子是同性恋…

　　·一个刚生产的年轻女孩，突然间看到她的婴儿是个残疾儿；

　　·当两个醉入爱河的情侣，有一天忽然得知他们是同胞兄妹… 又或者，一个忠实地爱着对方5年之久的女孩，忽然发现那个男子是有婚姻有孩子的情感骗子；

如何面对残酷真相

若问“面对残酷真相，我们该具备一种怎样的心态？又该如何做出理性客观的选择呢？”这是个较高难的询问。因为残酷真相本身是真实、是存在，我们怎能让存在不在呢？就如面临小孩问他亲娘“你可不可以不是生我的娘？”一样的难题。当地震来了，你没法命令地震停止，当你的亲人突然意外世故，你没法指望她顷刻间活过来……

既然现实有无情的、真相有残酷的，不幸又被我们所遇时，应该说我们是没有选择的，或说我们只有被迫选择接受。但能否做到“被迫接受”视人而异，有些人遭遇残酷现实时可能精神崩溃，无法再面对任何现实。因此，面对残酷的真相，我们需要有理性而接受的心态。即便认为说起容易做起难，我们还是得这样做（做本身也是现实和残酷的）：

合理防御 保护自身不受伤害本是人的本能，当忽然面对残酷现实，我们本能会有防御性反应，如否认、反向认同、压抑、逃避、歇斯底里、生理症状等等，以保护自己不被残酷所击倒。这些是自然和正常的防御反应，也是人在应急情况下的合理反应。但合理的“应急防御”时间不会超过几天至3个月。如果防御反应的程度重和持续的时间太久，有可能会陷入慢性抑郁状态，这就需要求助专业的心理疏导。重要的是，我们需要允许自己面临残酷事件时有非常态的防御反应。

具备一种被迫接受的心态 我们谁都不愿看到残酷事实，但当残酷来了，我们没有退路，除了防御性反应，还就是在心里做“迎接它”的考虑。面对残酷，想到是它撞上了我，我们需要有被迫接受的态度，即不否认它、不憎恨它、不对抗它，那么，残酷所必然有的负面情绪来了也很快会过去。

　　遭遇残酷，我们肯定难受，但不至于被残酷击垮，我们可以选择难过着应对残酷事实，流着泪（做该做的事情）擦拭疼痛的伤痕。

　　其实，面对残酷事实最好的防御是迎接。就像有句格言所说，最好的防守就是漂亮的进攻——做出回应。

理性是王 理性是对客观真相的尊重。面对残酷，能否做到合理防御，或是漂亮的进攻，又能否做到难过着接受残酷事实，是绝对需要理性的能力。在残酷事实面前，尽管人们理性上觉得应该直面和接受，但实际就是做不到。我们明白这是人的感情（感性）不能接受残酷，而感性之所以不接受是不需要理由。感性的力量猛于虎，很多时候理性败给了感性。如果人总有“为啥我知道该咋办却就是做不到”的困惑，那只是想象的理性，而非真正的理性。真正的理性是指一个人对客观真实的包容、遵从和把握，不歪曲不否认不隐藏。

　　人与动物最根本的区别是有理性。驾驭感情的力量，和处理人类中复杂而残酷性的事情，惟有理性能力。古希腊哲学家巴门尼德认为“理性是王，毕竟感觉的验证必须由理性来评判。感觉与理性，我们该坚持哪一个呢？任何声称自身优越于理性的方法都必须是由理性来加以采纳和运用的。这就赋予了理性一个几乎凌驾于所有探询方法之上的专断统治权。” 因此可以说，理性是战胜残酷的最高手段。

　　所谓理性能力，是包括客观的分析能力、判断能力、决定能力，以及理智地驾驭情感和行为的能力。人若缺乏理性，或总是感性用事，容易被挫折伤害。

　　所以，若有面对残酷真相的良好心态，在于培养你的理性能力，这是需要通过长期的个性、心智的修炼而成。

具备心理能量 心理能量，包括人的承受力、接纳度、 慈爱之心、宽恕之胸襟。

　　若能泰然应对残酷事实，必有抗挫折的心理能量。就人而言，我们总会有矛盾、有一些不以我们主观意志为转移的东西存在；对生命真相而言，总有我们并不喜欢的人性本恶的残忍存在，看看《动物世界》便知。如果我们能意识到这些，并从行为上选择面对和接受这些存在，就不会被挫折所伤（或成为患者），这便是有理性和有心理能力的体现。

理性，让我们能认识真相，解读真相的意义；心理能量，让我们能应对残酷的真相，能承受残酷的事实。

【此文载于《家庭医学》2009.10（下） 总第382期】

Solution: No eye see

Have you seen such parenting that they will never spank the child or even say 'No' to a child's behavior? I am lucky to meet one which is my music parent, the parent allowed their children to do whatever they want, but thankfully I am allow to teach the elder girl with discipline, (otherwise, I don't know how to teach by not discipline and being firm on certain requirements).

She allows her child to climb even window's grill, to play around, to eat, to play sockets, fan, whatever in my room, I saw him fell from table, fell from chair, head injured by knocking on table's corner, bed, I can take these, because the mother can take it, but I can't take it when he 'poo' in my room, eat in my room, at last I voice it out not to have food in my room, and another thing I can't take it is to play with my phone, I gave him a 'mean' look, and say "NO!". That's it, clear enough, phew..... he is not coming with his sister anymore.

I forgot the name of this type of parenting, this family is homeschool their child. The girl is another issue, she does whatever she feels like to do, at this moment, still under control in my 'authority', but quite a hard case to me, and require more patience to handle it. My solution is that, learn not to press too hard, and to tell the parent about any attitude problem I face, let the parent take over it.

Today, there was another family came to join KK time, from one of the Sonshine playgroup parents, the younger daughter were running up onto the stage many times, and was touching everything she sees, imagine it, the first time she joins, she behaves like that, what's more next? I carried her down from stage to her mother, she yelled as is I tortured her, she had a few times like that just in 2 hours, the mother very patience and lovingly play with her, asked her not to do this, not to do that, chasing after her, salute to the mother, the little girl must be a hyperactive child.

I didn't do much on that, because I don't know what can I do other than discipline, and I do not have the 'love box' of relationship to discipline her, therefore just 'no eye see'.

Imagine my child is like that, I think I have gone crazy ... Salute to the mom.

试。鞋 ～

在面子书读到朋友回应留言写着：

找鞋子，光看是不行的。脚当然要塞进去才知道，穿久就舒服了。而且，越久越舒服

写着关于寻找那真爱；说实在的，我真的有点问题，怎么老是觉得自己不懂得爱呢？好羡慕那些能够为爱情赴汤蹈火，为爱的人死心塌地的女生．

我需要的是亲情，一种没有背叛，没有承诺，没有比较，没有媲美与取悦。还是根的问题，倘若我不懂得爱，也就找不到亲情，由爱情转化到亲情，两人的友情也跟着深厚进展成感情，关系才能持久，这时候的亲情也是感情上最好的归属。　我要先学懂得爱，既然找到根的问题，就从根学起吧！嗯，何医生，不懂是否需要每双鞋子都试一试呢？

该死的 ' 不甘心'

所罗门王在箴言里不是说过了吗？

　

1：7 敬畏耶和華是知識的開端．愚妄人藐視智慧和訓誨

传道书又说着：

1：2 传道者说、虚空的虚空、虚空的虚空．凡事都是虚空。

这些不是我不懂，人的本性只有个 ‘贪’ 字，佛学所云之‘贪噌痴’, '贪’就写在前头。尽管前人，传道士，贤人，甚至圣人在几千年前说出无数的训诲，有受教育，没受教育的，有钱的，没钱的，都脱离不了这个弱点。

上帝创造了人，称他们为孩子，给了他们气息，教导他们智慧，赋予他们思想与自由，上帝看这些都是好的，不是吗？若果我们像机器人般活着，又有什么意识呢？他们学着，他们不断进步，都是上帝所盼望的，像天下父母亲一样，尽量供应孩子们的需要，传授道德观念，做人的道理，指示他们该行的道路。

孩子们想要的东西太多了，有了这个就想要那个。别人有的，自己也想要有，有时候还要是一模一样的。永远有个没完没了的 ‘我要’。

上帝给了孩子十戒：

第一戒 除了我以外，你不可有别的神。

第二戒 不可为自己雕刻偶像。

第三戒 不可妄称耶和华 你上帝的名。

第四戒 当纪念安息日。

第五戒 当孝敬父母，使你的日子在耶和华 你上帝所赐的地上得以长久 。

第六戒 不可杀人。

第七戒 不可奸淫。

第八戒 不可偷窃。

第九戒 不可作假见证陷害人。

第十戒 不可贪恋人的房屋，也不贪恋人的妻子，仆婢，牛驴，并他所有的一切。

第十戒说的就是贪，上帝把贪放在第十戒，不是说它无伤大雅，反而是要告诉我们那最小的就是万恶之首； 像他所说的《信，望，爱 》以爱为大。

孩子的世界里，贪的是食物，用具，就会连带到去偷，谎。大人的世界里的贪太多了，连带犯上所有的戒律，你说它是不是小得可怕？我说它威力无穷！

有些东西不是上帝不给，而是我们贪得无厌。我们可以对它说不要，也可以宠一宠自己，更可以放纵似的沉溺于当中，可是到后来伤害的还是自己。贪恋越是重，幸福越是离得越远，停下来想一想身边的人与事，看一看景与物，是不是应该够了？

未能得到的永远是迷人的，得到了以后又怎么样呢？有些时候付出的代价是无法弥补，察觉过后已经是时过境迁, 灿烂过后就是凋零。

所罗门王在生命里享尽荣华富贵后写了传道书，那是因为‘已经’ 拥有，所以看透这一切，可是多少人能够真正明白呢？我也不明白，或许是不甘心，非要得到为此，是不？这个该死的不甘心!

男人与女人爱情的差距

转摘: 男人与女人爱情的差距

一夜情躺着，以轻松的姿态来享受着上天赋予人的本能。爱情跪着，当一个人爱上了一个人，尤其当性没有以爱的名义发生之时，而情感在某个层次却已经凌空出现了，爱，就跪在了面前，以最谦卑的方式，乞讨着下一次的给予。

男人和女人是不同的。对男人而言，性可以只是性。只有当他们觉得有必要的时候，才将性和爱统一。所以当一个男人进入一个女人身体的时候，可以仅仅是身体。而女人，当她接纳一个男人的时候，首先在情感上, 她就已经容纳了他了。所以，在这样的情感里，女人跪着，男人站着。

看了这样的话，作为一个女人我感到无比的悲哀......

从古至今，总是流传着多情女子负心郎的故事，梁山伯与焦仲卿那样的痴心男人却很少。总听到身边的女子悲悲哀哀的为远去的爱哭泣，却鲜有男人在为昨日枯萎的玫瑰流泪。

在千古绝唱的宝黛爱情中宝玉不过是有情义的好男人的典型，他的爱情也是要屈服于现实和家庭的威慑，而女人的爱情就如林妹妹长年不止的眼泪，黛玉葬花就体现了一个女人无奈地埋葬自己和爱情的过程，而黛玉的爱情就是一个女人典型的爱情，生生地要了她的整个生命……

男人爱了，他就得到了更完整的世界，因为女人把自己的身体和心都交给了他；女人爱了，却只得到男人的身体和一颗“候鸟的心”，因为男人总在强调自己要有自由的来去，需要你的季节才会来到，他飞走的时候却带走了你的世界……

查阅一下男人与女人爱情的差距会有无数的答案：

男人的爱可以给N个女人，女人的爱只给一个男人。

男人的爱是用眼睛看出来的,而女人则是用感觉!

男人爱女人的过程是：爱—-怕---烦---离开， 女人爱男人的步骤是：无所谓——喜欢——爱——真情难收。

当男人很爱女人时，女人可能还没有 爱上男人，当女人逐渐的喜欢并爱上这个男人之时也许正是男人厌烦了女人准备开溜之际。

男人的爱是把天鹅逐渐变成癞蛤蟆的过程；女人的爱是把青蛙逐渐变成王子的过程。

女人的爱是执着的,因为她经常对以前的爱人念念不忘，男人的爱是天气预报,经常阴晴不定。

男人总是用“下半身”考虑，女人更多的是考虑“下半生”。

女人永远可以区分“爱”和“喜欢”，男人只知道哪个是最爱，所谓的“唯一”基本不真实。

和男人在一起时，你是他的全部；和男人分开时，你什么都不是。

和女人在一起时，你是她的全部；和女人分开时，你还是她的全部。

男人的爱可以用名利、地位来衡量；女人的爱可以拿名声、生命去换取。

男人以得到好女人炫耀自己；女人以守住好男人而炫耀自己。

好男人的责任感使他把自己看作一个战士，为婚姻垒个城堡，他就是守护的勇士；好女人的爱使她把自己看作一个护士，家庭就是他的病人，在她看来总是有点担心。

男人无性无爱 ，女人无爱无性。

在一夜情的情感里，男人是爱男人可以很洒脱,毫不在乎的忘记曾经的最爱,而女人却不能,换句话说,就是男人拿的起放的下,而女人却放不下,男人可以很快开始新的感情,女人却要独自舔试伤口.

因为情是和欲紧密相连的，男人的性冲动来的快而猛烈，女人的冲动来的缓慢而滞后，可以说男女不同的生理特点（性欲）导致了不同的心理特点（爱情），所以说男人的爱短暂而浅薄，女人的爱悠远绵长是由男女不同的生理特点决定的。男人的爱可以就像爱自己养在客厅里的猫咪一样，他希望你在他疲惫的时候不要打扰他，也希望在他身心不疲惫的时候陪他。他只所以把你养在客厅里，只是想在愉快的环境下给你爱。

而女人不同，女人是在得到之后才懂得付出和牺牲，因为守住才是她们的目的。所以在完成一夜激情之后的女人们总是一个受害者， 因为一般男人在得到之前是比任何人都肯付出和牺牲的。女们们怀念那种牺牲和温柔……可是男人的爱是有条件的，男人总是要爱符合自己要求的对象，当你己经不再符合新鲜的条件，你就得退场了。

所以激情之后哭泣的总是女人………

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稿源： 她风尚 　编辑： 常缨

学懂了就好!

心... 没有我想象中的冷, 硬而没知觉.

好久没有这种心痛的感觉, 我想也好,

至少证明我还活着,

有点想哭, 但又觉得没这个必要,

今天的答案, 只是证明了生命中的另一个错误选择,

只要学懂了就好.

转个弯, 整理鞋底下的尘埃,

认清了路线,

别惋惜失去的事与物,

学懂了就好!

好好加油！

。。。

还是哭了

哭了比较舒服

Before and After ... that matters

It always keep me wondering why am I right all the time, I just don't want to end up that I am the smartest people in the world which I know it is not true, and that makes me feel that I am such insensible, inconsiderable, irritable, unlovable, .... argh everything you could think of from a self-centered person.

The answer is simple enough, as I was talking to Pastor Tommy, and again, as usual.... I was right, very right for some incident and situation, then I said goodbye and last sentence I said to him was 'because I am always right!', that made both of us laughed. That was not the end, I told myself, it is not right, it must not be like that, then I realized: Time matters, I am always right because I always Right the Wrong, the time realm: Right is after the Wrong, Wrong is before the Right, of course I am always right, bla bla bla bla....... I better giving out 'adjustment', 'lessons', 'reasons', 'judgement'.......... 'lao kui'... more to improve, what a proud person I am.

Lord, so so sorry for my behavior. I know why you put me in 'that' position, ....to blunt my 'Axe', for future 'chop downs' ..... I just hope I could understand more of your plan in me, just...... please don't leave me Lord, I can't survive without your strength, I can't stand right without your guidance, I can't grow well without your grace and steadfast love. Please...... keep me in your arms.