Stoic Behaviour is unhealthy

There are times we feel happy, so we laugh, and we grieve when we have someone leaving us, and we tear when things don't go well according to our desire or plan.

There were times, we did not want anyone to know how we felt, especially when we grieve, and sad, we avoid tears and all appearances of grief, that is so wrong, this stoic behavior is not good, and not healthy.

There is a purpose in our pain. There is a lesson in every God's plan, we may not know and will not learn what we should if there is no pain, and no scatch.

While I am on the way to overcome the painful experience, God, open my eyes to see wonderful things from your law, and will wait for the good and look forward to the day when I will be able to share the life I have lived according to your will.

Malaysian Breakfast - Half Boiled Eggs

Half Boiled Eggs

instruction:

1. Make sure eggs are in room temperature, not direct from fridge.
2. Boil the water, turn fire off after the water is boiled
3. Roll in the eggs carefully, cover the pot, wait for about 7 minutes, if the size of the egg is small, the duration shall reduce.
4. Serve when warm, break eggs immediately after the required time.
5. Sprinkle some pepper and add some soya sauce according to your taste.
6. It could serve with toast bread ( Yin yong toast - Toasted bread with Kaya and butter spread ).

Gab would like it to be served with square biscuits, yummy!.

要弯得下腰, 才能拾起稻穗 !

[机会, 就在行动里 ! ] 戴晨志 著

行动了, 就有机会改变

另一本生活小品, 振奋心灵的励志故事,让我们思考多变的人生哲理, 培养积极的上进精神. 的确, 有许多生命确实不尽任意, 有人那到的生命之牌甚至是烂的, 但是我们都必须细心谨慎地呵护它,打造它, 彰显它,凭著信心与勇气, 让自我的生命活出奕奕光彩, 一如戴晨志所言, ''只要有刺激, 你我都能改变自己的想法. 只要有改变, 有行动, 机会和好运就一定回接踵而来啊 ! ''

Making a right decision

The Problem

• We all do exactly what we decide to do; we are the sum of our decisions.
• Virtually all of our problems can be traced to a poor decision -- a decision made by a process that is barely understood.

The Priority/Moral Distinction

Decisions tend to be priority or moral decisions.

• Priority decisions are choices made between right and right. The only imperative in making priority decisions is to be wise -- to choose between good, better, and best.

• Moral decisions are choices between right and wrong -- there is the morally correct choice and the morally wrong choice.

Biblical Decision-Making

• The first principle of effective decision-making: live by the word of God.

• The second principle of effective decision-making is not to put God to a test -- don't put yourself in a position that requires a miracle.

• The third principle of effective decision-making is always to worship God and serve Him only in your decisions.

Consequences

Every decision has spiritual and financial consequences.


Paul addresses this reality in Romans 7:15 where he writes, “I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate.”

1 John 5:13-21
In this passage from 1 John the person of sisterly “Wisdom” has been replaced by Jesus. “And we know that the Son of God has come and has given us understanding so that we may know him who is true…” (verse 20a).

The struggle with sin continues, but in Jesus we find God’s fullest expression of mercy and love, the one who confronts our sinfulness and defeats it for us so that we may rise above it and live as God’s people. Still we fall short of God’s intentions, but in Jesus Christ we find forgiveness and, more importantly, hope for the future.

Matthew 11:25-30
And here in Matthew we find words that offer hope. “Come to me, all you that are weary and are carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest” (verse 28). The “heavy burdens” we carry are our sins and the “rest” we receive in Jesus Christ is forgiveness. Thanks be to God for the opportunity to start over again and to live as forgiven people!


Jane's Note:

First of all we have to understand feeling or our mind (feeling controls mind) deceive most of the time, have you heard of "I'm out of my mind!", that's why, mind is not reliable.

When you are confused, when you are indulged, you often will make decision out of your mind, making a right decision best is to know what is the consequences, lay out the distinction upon priority and morality, lastly if God has to be in the picture (always will be ideal!), ask: What is God's will.

Remember even if you did make a wrong decision, don't hesitate to make an 'U-turn', God has forgiven all your sins. He is faithful to all His promises, and believe it, all things work for the good of those who loves Him.


With love,

Jane Lee
scfjanelee.blogspot.com

Broga Sunrise Virgin Trip

Broga Trip: Lead by Gideon Lye, together we have me - Jane Lee, Ben Lim, Debbie Lee, Mun Wah, Jasmine Chee and Rafi the dog, not to forget our youngest hero Nathanael Lye.

Broga Hill traffic direction n this

We met up in USJ 20 Petronas Station at 4:50am, departed at 5am sharp, thanks to everyone's punctuality! Mun Wah, Debbie, Gideon, Nathanael were in Ben's car, Rafi the dog and I were in Jasmine's CRV, arrived to the palm plantation, the entrance of Broga hill after 40 minutes of driving.

Surprised to see there were already many, many, many cars parking along the way, we parked our cars in the plantation where the trek begins, the sky was still dark, everybody got ready a head lamp or torch light, heret we started our trek.

It was an easy trail I would say, just about 45 minutes, many trekkers had started their journey up to the hill top. Along the trek, we met a lady fainted and was lying on the ground, we gave her group member some advise and tossed them some 100 plus drink, I think she hasn't got anything in her stomach yet, should I advise you here, please have something in your stomach before going for the trek. We also met someone along the way who were sitting on a rock, trying their best to grasp some air, breathing heavily, and re-charge their energy, m... I think trekking to Broga Hill is really a good exercise for city generation. It is always good to have this kind of outing often, we've spent too much time sitting....

Surprised again to see so many many many people already up on the hill top waiting while the sky is still dark! People every where, crowded along the trek, people scattered all over the hill, there are about 3 hills, we continued to trek up to the 2nd hill, get our spot, settle down for our breakfast. Going up at 5am may be early indeed, but we all like the time we could have a wonderful and ultimate fellowship, breeze brushes on our face, watching sky turning bright second by second..... wonderfully and beautifully.

The moment didn't last long, sky turned bright quickly, therefore treasure every moment

I had an amazing panaroma view for sunrise.

Sun's first peak!



People grabbing the precious time to take the best photo of her shyness.

Love in a beautiful pain

“We all carry around so much pain in our hearts. Love and pain and beauty. They all seem to go together like one little tidy confusing package. It’s a messy business, life. It’s hard to figure – full of surprises. Some good. Some bad”.

‘Henry Bromel’, Northern Exposure, The Big Kiss, 1991

Jane's note:

Our love is like a morning mist, like the early dew in a day, it will disappear. Our love in most of the time is a selfish act, just to fulfill our own desire or indeed temporary affection, it is an emotion, like we feel hungry, we feel thirsty, emotion is real, but won't last, so after a short period of 'enjoyment', 'happiness', the sorrows sooner or later will take its place, may be I am 'a bit' 'too' ( I don't know how to level it!) negative to this issue.

I have came across to this issue, a lady friend is in love, but the love is not acceptable by any form of human or God's law, so I call it 'love in pain', later on I thought through, it is actually not merely a love in pain, more closer to this relationship, I call it 'Love in a beautiful pain'.
Love in a beautiful pain, something I describe as:

This couple, they both love each other, they might not yet deeply in love, each time they see each other, their hearts burning, each time they meet each other, they know deeper in their spirit, they are in love. They have tried to control themselves not to show any affection, or not to release their emotion, till one day they confessed to each other, and their love is like a flood routing, yet they did not cross any line, and they know clearly they won't go any further, they will not have a good love ending, hence they both decided to cut off from that point.... (m... is it really like that... I have no idea)

But I know deep in their hearts, they have the pain, a pain that is beautiful and pure... 'Is this worth it?' She says he asked this question, then she answered: 'Yes, some love come beautifully and gone ugly, but this one comes beautifully and gone beautifully, though with pain, but it is something to remember for life.' How do you think about this statement? I loved her statement... beautifully........

Is this considered a good one? or a bad one?

Coward

I always thought I am one,
as though I was one.
I run no way from commitment,
I hide no way from admittance.

I think and analyze,
As though I realized,
where I lost my mind,
for a bind.
where I lost my soul,
for a told.

I have no fear of knowing the truth,
Beauty I have to accept the shoe.
Blessed when I crying in the hue,
Cos I have Jesus as my refuge.

I am not a coward,
I always looking forward.
To my friend who care,
I wont hold my share.

I don't know where I will go,
Definitely not a worldly gold.

I am tired

I am tired of thinking...
I am tired of analysing...
I am tired of loving...
I am tired of giving...
I am tired of being possitive...
I am tired of seeking...
I am tired of searching...
I am tired of waiting...
I am tired of disappointment...
I am tired of rejection...
I am tired of pretending...
I am tired of trying...
I am tired of all the rubbish nonesense...
I am tired of smiling...


...

I am tired of hearing .... 'you are good'...

...


If you are - like me... those stated above, please ... come to HIM

Matt Redman - Once again lyrics

Jesus Christ,
I think upon Your sacrifice
You became nothing
Poured out to death

Many times,
I've wondered at your gift of life
I'm in that place once again
I'm in that place once again

And once again I look upon the cross where You died
I'm humbled by Your mercy and I'm broken inside

Once again I thank You,
Once again I pour out my life

Now You are
exhalted to the highest place
King of the Heavens,
where one day I'll bow

But for now,
I'll marvel at Your saving grace
I'm full of praise once again
Oh I'm full of praise once again

And once again I look upon the cross where You died
I'm humbled by Your mercy and I'm broken inside
Once again I thank You
Once again I pour out my life

Thank you for the cross
Thank you for the cross
Thank you for the cross,
my friend And once again
I look upon the cross where You died
I'm humbled by Your mercy and I'm broken inside
Once again I thank You
Once again I pour out my life

爱 .

爱 . 是 -



世界的爱 . 是

• 一支优美的歌
• 一段美丽的传说
• 一种感觉
• 一片叶子
• 一堵无法阻挡的墙
• 唯一
• 冲动
• 一种想念
• 不顾一切
• 一个眼神
• 疯狂
• 无条件为你

呵! 真的复杂, 好缥缈, 可是听起来很浪漫...是吧?



再看一看 圣经所说的爱是:

• 恒久忍耐
• 又有恩慈
• 爱是不嫉妒
• 爱是不自夸
• 不张狂
• 不做害羞的事
• 不求自己的益处
• 不轻易发怒
• 不计算人的恶
• 不喜欢不义
• 只喜欢真理
• 凡事包容
• 凡事相信
• 凡事盼望
• 凡事忍耐
• 爱是永不止息

啊, 真美丽, 好实际, 听起来很有安全感.

可是, 人一堕入了爱情里, 就不理会什么叫爱了, 管他的什么世界, 什么圣经的....

我想也是...爱, 来得不易, 要在同一时间相爱, 对我来说实在太难咯!

再说, 爱 是需要很大的勇气,

有情人, 好好享受一下吧!

Happy 37th Birthday

Every masterpiece has it's own unique textures and tone.

A pastor preached once: "Every old folk is a masterpiece!", I have much agree with that, probably I am heading to the stage.... just past 37th birthday yesterday... kinda screaming when I looked at my birthday cake written: 'Happy 37th Birthday', I wrote it, I wanted it to be written like this.

Life isn't that easy, in a single mother hood, since 2001 the year Gab was born, till now, many ups and downs, worries, sorrows as well as happiness, time spent with Gab, I treasure every moment, and appreciate every experience, because I know they have helped molding today's ME, a me that I quite like to be.

A very quiet birthday celebration yesterday I had, with little 'darlingsss', dad, Alex and Marcia, I bought for myself a 'Blueberry Cheese Cake', this is all of our favourite.

Many of blessings sent to facebook's profile, MSN, sms and mails, thankful for all of them, that really make my day full, loving to receive them, appreciate every little tiny thing ( even just a click ) you all have done, thanks to all.

喜欢，是一种心情; 爱，是一种感情

It was posted by Kenmin Lee - my facebook friend, kinda like it, so I copy and pasted it here to share with all of you.


喜欢，是一种心情
爱，是一种感情

喜欢，是一种直觉
而爱，是一种感觉

喜欢，可以停止
爱，没有休止

喜欢一个人，特别自然
爱一个人，特别坦然

喜欢一个人，有时候盼和他在一起
爱一个人，有时候怕和他在一起

喜欢一个人，不停的和他争执
爱一个人，不停的为他付出

喜欢一个人，希望他可以随时找到自己
爱一个人，希望可以随时找到他

喜欢一个人，总是为他而笑
爱一个人，总是为他而哭

喜欢，是执着
爱，是值得

喜欢就是喜欢，很简单
爱就是爱，很复杂

喜欢你，却不一定爱你
爱你，就一定很喜欢你

其实，喜欢和爱仅一步之遥

但，想要迈这一步
就看你

是喜欢迈这一步
还是爱迈这一步......

爱.....很复杂

Self-Control is Not an Option

October 6, 2009

Healing Choices: Self-Control is Not an Option
by Rick Warren

"For the grace of God . . . teaches us to say 'No' to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives . . . " (Titus 2:11-13 NIV).

As we discussed yesterday, self-control is not optional for Christians. The race we are running is for eternity, and so we’re to develop a strict discipline (1 Corinthians 9:25).

Here are some other steps to help you gain self control as you make healing choices:

Talk back to your feelings Do you let your moods manipulate you? God doesn't want you to be controlled by your feelings. He wants you to master your moods. With Christ as the Master of your life, you can learn to master your feelings.

Talk back to them. Learn to challenge your emotions: "For the grace of God . . . teaches us to say 'No' to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives . . . " (Titus 2:11-13 NIV).

God's grace gives us the power to make the right choices--ones that lead to healing. God gives you the ability to say no to that feeling, to that desire, to that impulse.


Believe you can change The fruit of the Spirit--love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control--grow in your thought life. The seeds must be planted in your mind: The way you think determines the way you feel, and the way you feel determines the way you act.

God gave us the power to change our habits when he gave us the power to choose our thoughts. Does Romans 1:2 tell us to be transformed by working hard at it or by sheer willpower? "Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind" (Romans 12:2 NIV).

What are we to be transformed by--the renewing of the mind. When your self-control is being tested, you need to fill your mind with the promises of God. 1 Corinthians 10:13 says, "God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it" (NIV).

That's a fact. If you are a Christian, you can't honestly say, "The temptation was too strong; I couldn't help myself." The Bible says God is faithful. If you're a Christian, he won't let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.

He never asks you to bear something that is bigger than the strength he puts inside of you through his Holy Spirit.



Jane's Note:
Pastor Jacinta loves to forward some articles to whom she loves, I am that blessed to be one of those she loves, thankful for her love.

Somehow, this article has helped me or indeed has saved me from the valley, Jesus does it in a perfect way, and at the perfect time, I believe in His awesomeness and faithfulness. Thank You Lord.

The ''thread'' is being strengthened. Lord won't let me fall!

Beauty is ....

The title is inspired by Debbie's question.

I read her status in her facebook profile, so ... I started to type a few of my understanding...



here I go...

Beauty is ...

• beauty is kind
• beauty is love
• beauty is appreciation
• beauty is freedom
• beauty is being pure in heart
• beauty is acceptance
• beauty is peace
• beauty is joy
• beauty is self confidence
• beauty is imperfect ( I liked this statement... don't you agree?)
• beauty has no limitation
• beauty not found in words...
• beauty ....

There are no definite, absolute answers for the conjecture about beauty, beauty is inside your world.

Beauty is in you!

幸福是个什么东东?

有人说:

• 视乎你在找什么东东?

• 草原上有對獅子母子，小獅子問母獅子：「媽，幸福在哪裡
  ？」 母獅子說：「幸福就在你的尾巴上ㄚ…」 於是，小獅子不斷追著尾巴跑…但始終咬不到。 母獅子笑道：「傻瓜！幸福不是這樣得到的。 只要你昂首向前走，幸福就會一直跟隨著你！」

• 幸福应该是... 懂的享受吧?

• 或者说...享受你所拥有的.

• 又或者说, 懂得放下不是自己的

幸福到底是个什么东东?

• 幸福可以是一碗汤.

• 幸福可以是一条香肠.

• 幸福可以是一个问候.

• 幸福可以是一份友情.

• 幸福可以只是一个午觉....

• 我的幸福可以只是有你的爱... 明白.
• • 幸福是感恩... 对吧?
  • 好简单哩...
  
  
  
  • ........... 幸福不须特意追求...它就在你的眼前.
• 
  
  
  你所有的, 嗯..... 我不是说'拥有的', 而是你现在有的, 他可以是不长久的, 若能为着 它们 / 他们 / 她们 而感恩, 这就是幸福... 太美了...

那我现在.... 就充满着幸福!

What is my 'rock'?

When upside down makes sense . . . "The book of Acts is a book about how to live the Christian life in a world that is often hostile to our faith. It is a book that deals with topics like how to pray effectively, how to share the gospel effectively, how to overcome temptation, how to get through times of tribulation, dealing with pain, hardship."-Greg Laurie

It's an important look at keeping our hearts pure . . . no easy assignment in this impure world!

“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God” (Matthew 5:8). That’s it! That’s the goal of the Christian life! That’s what we are living for – that we may live our life in such a way that we see God.

If we see God, that will open up the treasure trove of all the blessings, not only for eternity, but also for life here and now. And the key to open that treasure trove is a pure heart!This is the most central and the most significant of all the beatitudes mentioned in this fifth chapter of Matthew.

You cannot be poor in spirit without having a pure heart.

You cannot mourn for the things that displease God without having a pure heart.

You cannot be meek, you cannot hunger and thirst for righteousness, you cannot be merciful, you cannot be a peacemaker or be prepared to stand persecution for the name of Christ without having a pure heart.

Actually, this is one of the most central principles of the Christian life that we see in the whole Bible. The heart of the matter is the matter of the heart.


Jane's Note:

Keeping a pure heart, is a lifelong lesson, temptation is just right before me, everything is a temptation, God's word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path (Ps 119:105).

Lord, open my eyes so that I may see wonderful things in your law (Ps 119:19)

God's word is my only strength, God's word is my only direction,

Jesus is my rock.

痕迹...不留尘?

我们走过的痕迹....很快, 很快的就会消失..., 因为我们走在沙滩上!

虽说没有不变的事情, 没有永恒的约定, 可是, 在圣经不是说永恒吗? 不是有说好的约定吗?

世界将要过去, 天地将要废去, 唯有神的话永远竖立.

我是如此相信上帝的信实与公义, 因他是昔在,今在,永在的上帝.

这句话语里, 是上帝的叮咛, 有上帝无私的大爱, 有耳的应当听.

倘若我们走在神的道路上, 就不怕痕迹被风吹雨打, 海浪汹涌澎湃....

因为我们的脚印经已被刻 在磐石上了.

苍蝇 vs 蝴蝶

人类从来没有制造一种仪器来至蝴蝶于死地, 起码不会是在每间餐馆囖.
苍蝇就不一样了, 没那么幸运, 大家都非常讨厌它们, 非要把它们消师灭祖, 毫不留情似的...


为什么我不作一只蝴蝶? 当我有机会可以选择的时候, 就应当作出正确的选择,不是吗?

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