FIREPROOFING Your Marriage against ADULTERY

Marriage is something worth to put in effort

Love Connection is vital to "affair-proofing" your marriage. When your marriage is suffering, you've got to have the humility to say: I need help.

It is a decision! It is not something you do when you have problem, or when you face cirsis.

During infatuation, sexual desire is higher, but when it is over it declines dramatically.

Anatomy of Adultery:
Men are emotionally needy! But they are not very good about expressing it.

Remember to meet the husbands'need for Respect and the wife's need for Love

"One out of three will cheat"
No.1 reason is that -they feel Disconnected with their wives, men are emotionally wired, not rational like many think.

Men tell the truth as early as possible... Dr Neuman said.
Think about this:

1. What does lying do to a relationship
2. Come clean
3. Be honest even when interest starts to develop

Love Connection is vital to "affair-proofing your marriage.

According to Dr. Gary Neuman in The Oprah Winfrey Show - "Why Men Cheat":

• Less time at home
• Less sex
• Avoidance of contact
• More critical of spouse
  

( It might be the sign he is about to cheat)

If you see these signs, you need to talk! Look at cell phones, etc.

Sex should be frequent; wife initiating says/ "I love you" to husband, when wife initiates it conveys love. Show kindness, adoration, admiration, let your husband feel like a "Winer".

Go on a weekly date where you don't talk about business, money or kids.

Chemistry is part of Intimacy - should only have it with your spouse, both should take responsibility for personal righteousness and being faithful to one another. God wants us to have great sex lives - read Song of Solomon, the Proverbs, 1Corinthians 7:3-5.

Fact is - Men are more sexually driven, men are emotional, it is in their DNA.
Take time down when you are at home with wife, take 1 day time solely for wive alone.

Cybersex = Affair
Cybersex is also cheating. Communicating with women of else wheres to reach your needs!!



What is an affair?
An affair is when two people not married to each other, become involved in:

1. A physical relationship that combines sexual activity and or intercourse.
2. Emotional feelings of love with each other

Both are affairs, but (2) is easier to give up than (1).

Men meet women that they end up having affair in with work place, hobbies...

Intimacy is made up of:

1. Vulnerability
2. Good verbal communication and affection
3. Physical closeness

God wants us to have great sex lives!

1 Corinthians 7:3-5

3The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

New International Version

Physical Closeness means:

• Touch
• Both ways
• should only have it with your spouse
  

When you are in the marriage crisis
Take Responsibility

• Both sides - for own sins

• Don't say "Let him/ her change first"

Being pretty/handsome does not mean that all the needs will be met.

An affair can end if one party ends it, take responsibility and cut if off.