25 Random Things

25 Random Things

I have many friends doing this in facebook.. thinking of doing it.

So here I go…

1. I can eat alone in public, I am lone ranger. Ever since I start giving private lesson, I go wherever alone. Shopping, swimming, gym, library, bookstore, I like doing it, simply feeling - free.
2. I have highs and lows, I have found out that it is normal after attending a workshop , glad to find out this, I have been thinking myself bio-character....I don't think I am that complicated.
3. I love to do crafts, sewing, cooking (not chinese food), mix drinks, housekeeping, gardening... simply I am the type - You give me love, I'll give you Home, If you would share a day with me, my life is yours. (Muaaahahahaha, er...... no life time warranty yiah, or... get one from God!)
4. I don't like emptiness, for instant, I don't like walls to be empty and in pale colour. I will somehow find something to fill that empty corner.... (you see.... that is why my store room is full)
5. If I have nothing to do, I will start dreaming.
6. I fell in love with Nicholas Cage, love his eyes.... another one is Jude Law ..... m...... ( I think I will get hooked easily by their eyes - errr..... men, don't wear sun glasses or else you have no chance!)
7. I have many things to do.... practising, teaching, church, writting blogs ( i have two, one is secret!), preparing home-work sheets for Gabriel, my devotion, Gab's devotion, house chores....

7a. I am lazy to do house chores, usually will wait till I can't stand (beh tahan) the mess....

7b. I used to break rules, but I will teach Gabriel to obey the rules....shhshshhhshhshh

8. I love to be home, I can stay at home reading books, I can stay up to months (when I want to save money! learning to be thrifty.)
9. I love outdoor activities, I won't care much to have a tanned skin. But I care if I might diagnosis with skin cancer, so, will try not to go direct under the sun for no reason.
10. I am forgetful, don't quite remember most of the things, my memory is shorter than short term memory, just blink of eyes. But selectively.... I remember most of the treasure memories...kekeke. If I forget ... please don't ask any more!
11. I love green! isn't it rare? m.... can't help, just like green no matter how! curiously, I don't usually wear green on me, arh... don't like you to buy one either...
12. I love rose essential oils, they smell romance, loved, pure, relax, thin, light, and unique. Please don't buy the cheap type, I use Jurlique if you are about to buy me one, kekeke.
13. I wear jeans and long pants all the time, convenient and relax. I do wear skirt, in fact I like frocks, those from Laura Ashley! erm... the last piece I bought was 6 years ago, not any more now.... too expensive.
14. I will try to make things look beautiful, according to my sense of beauty, I do accept others, because I know everyone has unique standard of appreciation.
15. I love food, but I can't tell which is best among best, I wonder why people will say 'that one is better! this one is better!' where they are all best. When you know they have different recipe, they use different ingredient .... what more you can judge? Just as long as they taste good, I will say "wow, good taste!"
16. I wear sandals 365 days. Occasionally high heels on dinners and 'dates' ... I love high heels though, just known that high heels kill ladies health, rarely put them on.
17. I love diamonds, but have none, and not intend to get one, not even wedding ring, cos they are too priceless, where no standard to rate them, I don't want to spend 10 of thousands to get one big 'gems'.

18. I have a good and close relationship with Gabriel, we talk nonsense, we talk about our dreams, together we imagine, we play, we chase after each other, we race, we pour out ideas, we pour out thinking..... we have a secret too!(only for two of us~!)
19. I love tea with milk, or perhaps you may call Vienna Tea. Two to three a day, well I can also live days without them.... having them just make my days a 'little' beautiful and 'sensuelle'.
20. I accepted Jesus Christ 8 years ago ever since a 'dramatic crisis' happened, but I really thank Him for this progression, because of this, God makes me a humble person.
21. I used to hate my lips, but now... love them so much! Gorgeous. .. ., hahaha
22. I like to share my thoughts, but I don't like boasting! In fact share in humility.....sometime playful... sometime...a little self-centered, but I totally accept yours too.... just... everyone has different perceptions different brought up, different mentality, different era.... different space.... different rams....
23. I love watching love story, not that Taiwan or Korean types lah!
24. I think a lot, and assuming a lot, I think I need to change this bad habit, so what I do is, I will try to communicate with the related person, and ask them directly, usually I assumed wrongly, what have I learnt? stop assuming loh!
25. I love travel, this is the thing I don't want to do it alone, I need to have family member around (I have home sick). But I can go with friends for mission trip. Two different things, one is sharing happy moments, one is doing work for God ( kerja bertugas).

can I have the 26th?

I believe strongly "God works for the good of those who love Him", that is how God works in my life, I might see things happened in a bad way, but when you look at it from now, it happened for a good reason, that makes ME NOW, whether you like me or not, I am me.

Thanks for your time!

Testimony 15th Feb 09

A short testimony given to SCF 15th Feb Sunday where Kingdom Kidz had a combined service with adult. Children led a fantastic praise and worship, Daniel Wong, gave a sermon on Media Influences , I had a short testimony to support his sermon, here it is:

I have a son, he is 8 years old, I have to admit that media influent a lot on our lives, Gab learned ABC from VCDs, he learned 123 from VCDs, he learned animals from VCDs. And I know clearly how much influences bring to Gabriel, and so I'll try my best to watch together with him, explaining to him things, behavior and values that are not accepted by God. At times he is watching without my guide too, this should not be an excuse but I am afraid to say so, I am a working mom.

Kid pick up things as they grow (I am blessed, Gab is a normal child), when he was young, I wanted him to be a gentle boy, I planed to mold him in this way, so I bought soft toys, cooking sets ... just no guns, till I came across to workshop by Dr. James Dobson, he is a Christian child psychologist, he said "let boys be boys", any how, boys will just make anything in gun shape, I agreed with it, he could just use his index finger and thumb and start playing "police and thief" game. After this I let him watch what his DNA drives him to watch, majority adventure and action cartoons.

There was one time, I caught him in fighting with his cousin, he was pulling his cousin's legs and hung him up side down, wanted to pound him... WOW... that was violent and he also elbow his cousin... WOW that hurt his cousin, of course, immediately I stopped him and gave him a 'good' lesson ( I screamed )

Thanks to Jesus, without Him, I don't know how to teach him, I quoted a few bible verses and he listened, we ended with a prayer. Kid just need to be reminded every time.

We watch movies together, and we will talk about God's teaching against the wrong moves in the movie, it has become our habit to do this. I see changes on him, he is learning... I won't stop him from watching, of course according to his age and the level of understanding and maturity, by allowing Gab to watch movies of his selection, I empower him and trust him in his ability to analyze the suitable movies, rather than keeping him in a box and mold him what I wanted him to be, I've planted the seed in him, and continue to nourish his growth.

Here is a link where we could find out what is the moral teaching behind the movie, they always provide reviews of the latest movies.

PluggedIn Online Movie Review

Plugged In is a Focus on the Family publication designed to help equip parents, youth leaders, ministers and teens with the essential tools that will enable them to understand, navigate and impact the culture in which they live. Entertainment is a potent influence on our culture for both good and evil. Through our reviews and discussions of that entertainment, we hope to spark intellectual thought, family discussion and spiritual growth.

Singapore Trip

It was a workshop that three of us, Debbie, Marcia and I decided to drive to Singapore. We started our journey at 2pm on Friday 6th Feb, Marcia drove all the way, it had been many years that Marcia didn't drive to Singapore, so does Debbie, as for me.... I just simply can't remember the way, hence... we missed a few junctions and we took the wrong road towards woodland instead of TUAS, well luckily the traffic jam was not that bad as we'd expected, managed to reach Bedok South in time for dinner and 1st day workshop.
~ Took photo with Shania Dayang and Sonia Lipang ~


Oh~ the moment I reached Bel's home, I gave my big hug to Lipang, Shania wasn't home from school yet, then I took a look at pictures that hung on the wall, inspecting any changes have had done by Hensen and Bel, the reason I said that, because they always rearrange furniture; Hensen loves handicraft things.... he is an handyman, he modified many decorative special and unique items.



Here is the open gallery of Hensen's photos - Love the way he puts them, all the memories from the moment Hen and Bel were engaged.


Hensen loves cooking, he cooked most of the meals when we visit him. He learns recipes from mom and he improvises most of them, I have tasted his "improvisation'.... m.... full of surprises, most of them were very nice and some are quite delicious, as in we haven't tasted things like he mixed them, but they are totally acceptable.

Well ... Christabel loves mopping, she is the one to keep house clean, keeping everything back to its place.

There are two housekeepers in this house.

There are two cuties in this house, where they are totally an opposite...

Besides three of us, siblings in Singapore joined the Fireproof my Marriage workshop, they are Jack and Margie, Debbie's another twin Deborah, Hensen and Christabel. We were all invited by Hensen and Christabel. The workshop was fantastic and wonderfully changes our perceptions, that is God who could do this. What I feel great is that all of us come together, this never happened ever since we all became Christian, it is God who could do this! There is one whose questioned God's might, there is another one whose blamed God's plan.... this is not important, awesome is - now... we are united in God's name, we are here because of Him. We uttering of His love, His works, His will, His promises ... Singing praises and saying many "Thanks" to the Lord our God.

I enjoyed the siblings fellowship, God has given me abundantly, He is faithful!

Group photo-from left behind: Jack, Margie, Christabel, Hensen
from left front : Debbie, Deborah, Marcia and Jane

Growing Kids God’s WayTouchpoints of...

Growing Kids God’s Way---Touchpoints of Love for your Children
Designed by Gary and Joy Hanson

Do you know each family member’s love language? Here is an exercise that we want you and your kids

to try. Within each group, rate the sentence 1 to 5 according to what would make you feel most

appreciated and loved. The number 5 represents what you most appreciate; number 1, in contrast, is what you least appreciate in each group. (No individual grouping can have a number repeated twice).

Group One
A_________________ Mom or Dad says, “You really did a great job on that. I appreciate it.” B__________________Mom or Dad unexpectedly created a study table/office for your exclusive use in the house.
C__________________Mom or Dad brings you home a surprise treat from the store. D__________________Mom or Dad invites you to MacDonald’s for ice-cream and to talk. E__________________Mom or Dad makes a point to give you a big hug and kiss you before you leave the house.

Group Two
A__________________Mom or Dad brings you home a special food treat from the local hawker stall. B__________________Mom or Dad volunteers to type your project for you so you won’t have to. C__________________Mom or Dad gives you a hug even when you were just passing by room to room. D__________________Mom or Dad invites you to sit down and talk about your day. E__________________Mom or Dad tells you how much he or she appreciates you.
Group Three
A__________________Mom or Dad helps pack up your room.
B__________________Mom or Dad holds your hand as you walk through the mall or stands by your side with an arm around your shoulder at a public event.
C__________________Mom or Dad, during a party, shares about how proud they are of you. D__________________Mom or Dad surprises you by buying you the very thing that you have wanted but have not mentioned.
E__________________Mom or Dad set aside time for a special afternoon trip with you.

Group Four
A__________________Mom or Dad will personally drive you to an event instead of you having to go on the bus or MRT.
B__________________Mom or Dad surprises you by giving you a mobile phone. C__________________Mom or Dad made milo for you when you had to stay-up late to rush for a project. D__________________Mom or Dad praises you about one of your special abilities. E__________________Mom or Dad plans a special night out for the two of you.

Group Five
A__________________Mom or Dad gives you a back rub.
B__________________Mom or Dad sends you something special through the mail. C__________________Mom or Dad learns how to roller-blade so that they can roller-blade with you. D__________________Mom or Dad tells how much his or her friends appreciate you. E__________________Mom or Dad helps you pack your luggage for your trip.
(Transfer your scores from your test questions to the scoring profile below)

Encouraging Acts of Gift-Giving Quality Touch & Words Service Time Closeness
Group 1 A_________ B_________ C_________ D_________ E_________
Group 2 E_________ B_________ A_________ D_________ C_________
Group 3 C_________ A_________ D_________ E_________ B_________
Group 4 D_________ C_________ B_________ E_________ A_________
Group 5 D_________ E_________ B_________ C_________ A_________
Totals _________ _________ _________ _________ _________

Compare your score with your parent. Write down from the primary to the least of the love languages of each family member.

Child’s Mom’s Dad’s Sibling’s

1. ______________ ______________ ______________ ______________

2. ______________ ______________ ______________ ______________

3. ______________ ______________ ______________ ______________

4. ______________ ______________ ______________ ______________

5. ______________ ______________ ______________ ______________

Love Language Test for Children

The Love Dare

The Love Dare by Stephen & Alex Kendrick

(You may purchase the book at Manna S$22.41 for member and S$24.90 for non-member)

The LOVE DARE is a 40-day challenge for husbands and wives to understand and practice unconditional love. It is a journey of learning the keys to finding true intimacy and developing a dynamic marriage.

Each day of this journey will contain 3 very important elements:

(1) A unique aspect of love will be discussed. Read each of these carefully and be open to a new understanding of what it means to genuinely love someone. (Please buy the book to read more!)

(2) You will be given a specific date to do for your spouse. Some will be easy and some very challenging. But, take each dare seriously, and be creative and courageous enough to attempt it. Don’t be discouraged if outside situations prevent you from accomplishing a specific dare. Just pick back up as soon as you can and proceed with the journey.

(3) You will be given journal space to log what you are learning and doing and how your spouse is responding. It is important that you take advantage of this space to capture what is happening to both you and your spouse along the way. These notes will record your progress and should become priceless to you in the future.

Remember, you have the responsibility to protect and guide your heart. Don’t give up and don’t get discouraged. Resolve to lead your heart and to make it through to the end. Learning to truly love is one of the most important things you will ever do.

Now these three remain: Faith, Hope and Love.

But, the Greatest of these is LOVE.

1 Corinthians 13:13

Also, in Appendices:

1. The Locks and Keys of Effective Prayer

2. 20 Questions to Your Spouse

3. The Word of God in My Life

4. Leading Your Heart

Get the entire journey here The Love Dare

FIREPROOFING Your Marriage against ADULTERY

Marriage is something worth to put in effort

Love Connection is vital to "affair-proofing" your marriage. When your marriage is suffering, you've got to have the humility to say: I need help.

It is a decision! It is not something you do when you have problem, or when you face cirsis.

During infatuation, sexual desire is higher, but when it is over it declines dramatically.

Anatomy of Adultery:
Men are emotionally needy! But they are not very good about expressing it.

Remember to meet the husbands'need for Respect and the wife's need for Love

"One out of three will cheat"
No.1 reason is that -they feel Disconnected with their wives, men are emotionally wired, not rational like many think.

Men tell the truth as early as possible... Dr Neuman said.
Think about this:

1. What does lying do to a relationship
2. Come clean
3. Be honest even when interest starts to develop

Love Connection is vital to "affair-proofing your marriage.

According to Dr. Gary Neuman in The Oprah Winfrey Show - "Why Men Cheat":

• Less time at home
• Less sex
• Avoidance of contact
• More critical of spouse
  

( It might be the sign he is about to cheat)

If you see these signs, you need to talk! Look at cell phones, etc.

Sex should be frequent; wife initiating says/ "I love you" to husband, when wife initiates it conveys love. Show kindness, adoration, admiration, let your husband feel like a "Winer".

Go on a weekly date where you don't talk about business, money or kids.

Chemistry is part of Intimacy - should only have it with your spouse, both should take responsibility for personal righteousness and being faithful to one another. God wants us to have great sex lives - read Song of Solomon, the Proverbs, 1Corinthians 7:3-5.

Fact is - Men are more sexually driven, men are emotional, it is in their DNA.
Take time down when you are at home with wife, take 1 day time solely for wive alone.

Cybersex = Affair
Cybersex is also cheating. Communicating with women of else wheres to reach your needs!!



What is an affair?
An affair is when two people not married to each other, become involved in:

1. A physical relationship that combines sexual activity and or intercourse.
2. Emotional feelings of love with each other

Both are affairs, but (2) is easier to give up than (1).

Men meet women that they end up having affair in with work place, hobbies...

Intimacy is made up of:

1. Vulnerability
2. Good verbal communication and affection
3. Physical closeness

God wants us to have great sex lives!

1 Corinthians 7:3-5

3The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

New International Version

Physical Closeness means:

• Touch
• Both ways
• should only have it with your spouse
  

When you are in the marriage crisis
Take Responsibility

• Both sides - for own sins

• Don't say "Let him/ her change first"

Being pretty/handsome does not mean that all the needs will be met.

An affair can end if one party ends it, take responsibility and cut if off.

FIREPROOFING Your Marriage with VULNERABILITY

When couple bringing things out in the open means being vulnerable (encourage to have a 'little healthy fight')


Vulnerability:

• Expressing your weaknesses and fears

• Expressing what you need

• Sharing your feelings respectfully

Why is your Love Connection not strong?
one main reason - You have stopped bringing issues out in the open. Argue, if you need to...but be careful how you argue! Make it a healthy arguing!

We have to learn to bring issue out!

Bringing issues out in the open means

• Something must be done
• Seeing your short comings
• Bringing discomfort, but this is needed, risk must be taken, careful how you argue.
  

Reasons for not doing so:

• Avoid conflict - remember: long term pain is greater than short term pain
• No rows in front of children (valid but shouldn't be an excuse to never be open)

Couple always seeing of "You" are the problem, always didn't see our own problem, careful how you argue. 96% of the time you can predict the outcome of a conversation based on the 1st three minutes. A harsh start up simply dooms you to failure!


Healthy Arguing means:

• Honoring one another, instead of Belittling
  

Romans 12:10

Be devoted to each other with mutual affection. Excel at showing respect for each other.

~International Standard Version~

Philippians 2:3, 4

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit,
but in humility consider others better than yourselves.
Each of you should look not only to your own interests,
but also to the interests of others.
~New International Version ~

Aware of each others' strength. Some are naturally confrontational, others at listening.

• Accepting Responsibility instead of blaming

Ephesians 4:2

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.

~New International Version~

• Not going around in circles
  

Ephesians 4:25

Wherefore, putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour, for we are members one of another.

• Venting out appropriately without uncontrolled anger

Ephesians 4:29

I do not let any unwholesome talk come out of my mouth, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

(follow the teaching of the bible verses to avoid 90% of the fight, you win or loose as a team, no one is getting extra points!) Bring out the issue in maturity, ruminate will leads you too far to come back!

• Being Vulnerable means expressing your need specifically and revealing your weakness.

Colossians 3:12-13 (New International Version)

12Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. 13Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

• Apologizing where appropriate. How an argument is repaired is just as important as how it starts. Be humble. Arbitration if ends up in a gridlock situation.

Vulnerability means:

• Give a 'timeout' to cool down, to think over, figure it out for the good.
• Vulnerability makes all possible things work.
  

FIREPROOFING Your Marriage with LOVE CONNECTION

Love Connection vs. Infatuation

Infatuation:

• When both of you 1st develop a 'chemistry'
• It is auto-pilot mode, you know what to do for one another
• Naturally motivated to put the others needs about yours.
• Become more interested on the 'differences' of each others.
  

Infatuation is the most fun stage, where you could create many great memories, doing things that is crazy despite of others people are looking, looking for adventurous, seeking new and fresh 'feeling'...

but ... how long does this last?


It lasts about 18 months to 3 years!

After this phase, some of these feeling or so called 'chemistry' can not be recaptured, such as the craziness, 'love feel'...etc.


For most of the relationships, started from this 'spark', but it does not lasts.

infatuation will leads the relationship to two possible ways:

1. Affectionate Regard ..........(leads to) Breakdown
2. Love Connection
   

If we are not careful, we skip Love Connection and will enter into a different stage, known as Affectionate Regard.

Affectionate Regard is a stage that there is care, concern and relationship, they do not want to hurt each other, like siblings love, you love each other but you are not in love. No connection, passion, intimacy and little chemistry. Destiny is not inter wined, it has evolved into brother and sister relationship.

Can we get it back and move into the Love Connection stage?
Just make a resounding 'YES'! God says about being friends and lovers.

Song of Songs 8:6-7


6"Put me like a seal over your heart,
Like a seal on your arm
For love is as strong as death,
Jealousy is as severe as Sheol;
Its flashes are flashes of fire,
The very flame of the LORD.
7"Many waters cannot quench love,
Nor will rivers overflow i
If a man were to give all the riches of his house for love,
It would be utterly despised."

Love Connection means

• Meeting Needs
• Need to make effort consistently;
  
• It is not in auto-pilot mode
• Need cooperation
• Become aware of the 'differences' between each others.

Love Connection takes effort, when you put in effort, the feeling will come, the love will stay, it is worth to put in effort and time into your marriage for sure!

Ephesians 5:21-33
Respect and Love are the Keys


5:21 subjecting yourselves one to another in the fear of Christ.

5:22 Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.

5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife,
and Christ also is the head of the assembly,
being himself the savior of the body.

5:24 But as the assembly is subject to Christ,
so let the wives also be to their own husbands in everything.

5:25 Husbands, love your wives,

even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it;
5:26 that he might sanctify it, having cleansed it by the washing of water with the word,
5:27 that he might present the assembly to himself gloriously,
not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing;
but that it should be holy and without blemish.

5:28 Even so ought husbands also to love their own wives as their own bodies.
He who loves his own wife loves himself.

5:29 For no man ever hated his own flesh;
but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord also does the assembly;

5:30 because we are members of his body, of his flesh and bones.

5:31 "For this cause a man will leave his father and mother,
and will be joined to his wife. The two will become one flesh."

5:32 This mystery is great, but I speak concerning Christ and of the assembly.

5:33 Nevertheless each of you must also love his own wife even as himself;
and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Husbands should Meet their Wives' Need for Love by being

• Affectionate - physical touch
  

• Honest - to work, money spending, friends...

• Responsible

Wives should Meet their Husbands' Need for Feeling Respected by

• Showing Admiration - verbal encouragement
  

• Taking an Interest - in their work, hobby, interest, friends...

• Providing Sexual Fulfillment and Looking Attractive (this is the need)

Each side tends to rate the need of the other as being low in their own raking of what's important!


A happy fulfilled marriage is not based on 'right mix' or perfect match, but people who know how to show Respect and Love, i.e. meet the needs.

Love Connection - knowing the needs and know how to meet them. When needs are NOT met, they will go some where else to meet this need and get detached.

What is an affair?
An affair is when two people not married to each other, become involved in:

1. A physical relationship that combines sexual activity and or intercourse.
2. Emotional feelings of love with each other

Both are affairs, but (2) is easier to give up than (1).

In Marriage, we don't get immediate and automatic feed back, it is a life time progression!
To meet needs, you don't have to be certain kind of person, or giving excuse to own self that I can't do it, or ignoring it.


For men, what do you need to train yourselves to do:
Affection (Women)
Many men grow up in an environment where affection was not seen and even was discouraged.
But you may start training to do these things now, i.e. sending flowers/cards/emails/back rubs/calls/sms/holding hands...

Do not ignore the Power of showing affection, most of men would give themselves an excuse: Not the "affectionate type", what about during dating?(Ambassador?)

Men: How do you feel if your wife get affection from some place?

Men need to take 10-15 hours of undivided time for their spouse a week, include: Traveling, meal time, walking, talking... when you talk, you enter into the other person's world.

Honest (Women)
Little lies can chip away the marriage, your partner needs to know you the best, both of you are BEST OF FRIENDS.

Secret e-mails, cell phones, etc... you demand for privacy? nah! marriage is what we care more about! Marriage may have a lot of weaknesses, but it is doomed to fail if it is NOT based on honesty and cooperation, at least start with a friend, work towards building trust with spouse.

Responsibility (Women)

• What kind of a father have you been to the kids?
• Leave all the discipline to the wife?
• Leave all the homework to the wife?

Do you know that? It warms the heart of the wife when she sees him take an interest in the kids. (Aphrodisiac, when husband helps with house work or takes kids out to park, leaves wife with some peace and quiet time!)

Love Connection as opposed to Love Infatuation or Affect Regard
Husbands need to meet the needs of the wives.
Wives need to meet the needs of the affection.


For women, what do you need to train yourselves to do:
Admiration (men)

• What if someone admires your husband more than you?
• what do you think will happen?
• what if you are the worst critic?
• Never fake your admiration - must be come from your heart

Dr. Gary Neuman said: They (men) needs wives admiration. Constantly show respect and believe in your husband. The more you do, it will return to you!

Take an interest (men)
Men will talk; start with the right topic.
His work ... Do you know:

• His boss?
• His type of work?
• What are his biggest burdens?
• His favourite sports?

Do not ignore the Power of showing interest! Go for hobby/interest together.