Birth Certificate

Here I found a nice birth certificate framed that we could make it for our new born babies as well as a gift to our friend's.

Character test

My result from a character test that shared by May Lee, quite interesting.

You are the grass-fragrance type.

You have very strong will, not dependent on others and gives an impression of being a lone-ranger. ( accurate!)

You are extremely curious and sensual, living a clear-headed, modern life. (kind of)

At first glance you place yourself on a pedestal, and are difficult to get along. But once others talk to you, they know you are easy going. And when relationship develops, they realize you are affable. (not sure, better let you to tell me this.)

You have an androgynous (雌雄同体) charm, which makes you popular with all genders. (How interesting!)

But you don't like your weakside to be seen. (darn true!)

You might look cool on the surface, but beneath it all, you are really Passionate. (Wanna know more?)

Only people who know your true self can maintain a long-lasting relationship with you. (ya, agree, no wonder I don't find myself have any 'best friend', you all didn't maintain long enough....)

我是一个自作多情的人

我是一个自作多情的人, 所以对我好的人你们要小心, 因为你们的好会让我觉得你们喜欢我;

总会.... 老是觉得这个他喜欢我....那个她喜欢我...你有没有这个感觉? 应该是很普遍的情感。不管是男生 或女生都会有的一种错觉。又或者对方的行为超越了朋友的界限？那就要衡量一下你的极限。如果屡屡陷入这种错觉，实际上是有一些特殊的心理机制在起作用的。别以为这些人是十分有自信的人，反之常常陷入这种状态的人，内心非常渴望别人的关注及认同。

我想说的是, 喜欢一个人并不代表爱一个人, 也许你感觉是对的,他/她喜欢你, 因为他/她不讨厌你, 就酱简单, 别老是弄得自己不自然. 好好享受友情吧!

我是一个自作多情的人, 所以对我不好的人你们要小心,因为你们的举动会让我觉得你特意要我多注意你; 这也有可能, 别想太多了, 最好的方法是问个明白, 得了个明白就不会有误会了.

自作多情真的很累人, 反而问个明白, 也不会因为这个人的任何一个小动作让自己也多情起来, 除非这个人的答案不忠于他的心, 这倒也不关你的屁事, 活该的是他. 对不? 因为又有一些人是用反向表达，反向表达也是一种过度渴望被关注而通过这种方式来引起对方的注意。同时也是他们保护脆弱自尊的方法。 夷~！ 有点像我本人。。。 你们会吗?

自作多情的人别只在这里徘徊，好好活出自己，你的天空宽阔，有无数的群鸟翱翔天际，享受天的美， 经历风的温柔，阳光的温暖。（写得有点太过火了吧！真做作，我在自High, 请原谅我。）

我可没这么棒，这里面的分析是从这里《自作多情的女孩》 查阅得知的，只是不明白为什么是 自作多情的女孩。。。而不是男孩？ 好委屈哟。。。 男生因为爱面子不常把感受说出来，比较多是第二种的自作多情，所以。。。咳！ 算了吧！反正他们也不会承认！ 绝！

不该有的优越感

前阵子在报章阅读了一篇文章，说道基督徒的优越感，他是一位在美国的牧师 。

话说在美国人民都以宗教信仰为择选领袖的条件等等，该文也提到一些因为自己是基督徒而觉得高人一等，他个人认为我们不应该有这样的优越感。

我满赞同他的说法，当然我不是在这里辩论谁对谁错，纯属我个人看法。 曾经有一位钢琴学生她是个working adult, 当时我还未信主，她过后也许是因为我不是基督徒而停止而改换老师。这个还可以，不是什么问题，反正学生来，去都是平常事。另有一件事，是在信主过后，有一位司琴的基督徒因为我不很会伴奏教会的歌曲， 也不能记下什么chord progression，她说如果学了那么高，不是服侍主又有什么用呢？不能荣耀主等等。。。我真的也不太记得她还说了些什么，我当时也不知道该说什么，因为我只觉得自己没有用。

这是其中的两次，还有最近的一件又是那些存有优越感的基督徒来当我的学生，还说终于找到一位教钢琴与小提琴的基督徒老师。其实那个时候我真的已经不太喜欢他们（夫妇俩人）的那种态度了，已经是换了不少过三位的老师，我的天啊！这样的家长也留不久，果然，才学了三个月又说他们找到了一间基督徒的音乐学院，那么他们可以把哥哥也一起送去学习其他乐器。关于他们的离去，我心存感恩，哈哈，是真的，这样的家长真有问题！

也许是一路来的经历，我实在搞不清楚做为一位基督徒有什么优越感？我们只不过是上帝的器皿，我们也会犯罪，我们也会软弱，我们甚至有一些还不比其他宗教的信徒来的更虔诚，或守戒律。我们的生存的意义不是要荣耀主名吗？（荣耀主名的定义，我个人觉得不只是服侍主，更不是让人觉得没有用。）不是要爱人如己吗？不是要带人来到上帝的面前吗？我们不是都要成为上帝的使徒吗？

真的不该有这样的优越感，它让我们与他人之间多了一栋无形的墙，让我们一起来学习以及了解上帝的心意。

荣耀主是让他人看到上帝在你心中, 在日常生活里活出包容 和 爱。 讨上帝的喜悦，不是个人的喜欢或成就感。

纯属个人看法.

Jane Lee

梁繼璋給兒子寫的一封信

香港電臺知名主持人梁繼璋曾給兒子寫過一封信，這封信很快流傳於各大網站，很多父親看後感觸很深，我覺得不只給兒子, 其實適合所有人看！

下輩子，無論愛與不愛，都不會再見----送給兒子的備忘錄

我兒 :

寫這備忘錄給你，基於三個原則：

(一）人生福禍無常，誰也不知可以活多久，有些事情還是早一點說好。

(二）我是你的父親，我不跟你說，沒有人會跟你說。

(三）這備忘錄裏記載的，都是我經過慘痛失敗得回來的體驗，可以為你的成長省

回不少冤枉路。

以下，便是你在人生中要好好記住的事：

（一）對你不好的人，你不要太介懷，在你 一生中，沒有人有義務要對你好，除了我和你媽媽。至於那些對你好的人，你除了要珍惜、感恩外，也請多防備一點，因為，每個人做每件事，總有一個原因，他對你好，未必真的是因為喜歡你，請你必須搞清楚，而不必太快將對方看作真朋友。
（二）沒有人是不可代替，沒有東西是必須擁有。看透了這一點，將來你身邊的人不再要你，或許失去了世間上最愛的一切時，也應該明白，這並不是什麼大不了的事。
（三）生命是短暫的，今日你還在浪費著生命，明日會發覺生命已遠離你了。因此，愈早珍惜生命，你享受生命的日子也愈多，與其盼望長壽，倒不如早點享受。
（四）世界上並沒有最愛這回事，愛情只是一種霎時的感覺，而這感覺絕對會隨時日、心境而改變。如果你的所謂最愛離開你，請耐心地等候一下，讓時日慢慢沖洗，讓心靈慢慢沉澱，你的苦就會慢慢淡化。不要過分憧憬愛情的美，不要過分誇大失戀的悲。
（五）雖然很多有成就的人士都沒有受過很多教育，但並不等於不用功讀書，就一定可以成功。你學到的知識，就是你擁有的武器。人，可以白手興家，但不可以手無寸鐵，謹記！
（六）我不會要求你供養我下半輩子，同樣地我也不會供養你的下半輩子，當你長大到可以獨立的時候，我的責任已經完結。以後，你要坐巴士還是 Benz（賓士），吃魚翅還是粉絲，都要自己負責。
（七）你可以要求自己守信，但不能要求別人守信，你可以要求自己對人好，但不能期待人家對你好。你怎樣對人，並不代表人家就會怎樣對你，如果看不透這一點，你只會徒添不必要的煩惱。
（八）我買了十多二十年六合彩，還是一窮二白，連三獎也沒有中，這證明人要發達，還是要努力工作才可以，世界上並沒有免費午餐。
（九）親人只有一次的緣分，無論這輩子我 和你會相處多久，也請好好珍惜共聚的時光，下輩子，無論愛與不愛，都不會再見。
你的爸爸梁繼璋

Selection of Apostles

Went for Yeah Show for a disciple training last Friday, topic of the day is: Selection of Apostles.

Luke 6:12-19

I like to take up students that is dropped by other teachers, or student that has lost their passion on learning piano, and that is challenging, then I have a goal of lifting up their interest again, and of course I did, not 100% successful, about 80%, the 20% is attitude problem. Just realized that I had this practice too, unlike Jesus, I didn't pray if I want to take these students or not, hahaha.

Come back to Jesus, He is so serious about choosing an apostle, I believe before that very night, He prayed unceasingly for whom He would like to take as His 'die hard disciples', but instead of choosing one from His own understanding, He chose to ask Heavenly Father to whom He would like Him to choose.

Another reason of spending a whole night to pray of the list, was He probably can't imagine and believe the list from Father, in order to play safe, He prayed again and again, making sure that He did not get the list wrongly, because all of the 12 apostles, non of them are good man, including the one who going to betray Him. If I were Jesus, if I knew Judah is the one going to betray me, I would rather skip this one! Jesus knew from the beginning, He still chose him as one of them as in God's will.

Come back to the selection, in Kingdom Kidz SCF children ministry, I have to confess, I am too narrow, I see it by my own eyes, understand by my knowledge, and have the habit of choosing ones that are obedience, good boy/girl, sing well, dance well... I didn't really go down on my knees to whom to be trained. I don't want to miss out 'Matthew' who were greedy, and gave his all to God; I don't want to miss out 'Peter' who denied Jesus 3 times, yet became a fisher of man; I don't want to miss out 'Paul' who persecuted Christian Church, yet spent whole of his life to spread Gospel to Roman and being imprisoned for Christ sake. There are many more who turns into His mighty vessels and were broken pieces.

Dear Lord, help me to be sensitive enough to your voice, and follow your guidance.

I need to draw closer....

I felt I am a total hypocrite, always think that I am doing well, doing good, doing things right, saying things that is noble, but those are dump shit. How can I be a good one, that is really from inside out? I am not looking to be a perfect one, but at least who is good enough in the sight of God.

Not the thing I have in me, not the way I think of everything, but is the life that I am carrying, the daily decision that I am making, I need a retreat... a total makeover.

I may know all sorts of philosophy, but philosophy can't set me free. I may have everything but I am nothing without Your love.

And that reminds me of time to drawing closer to God,.

He is the way, the truth and the life,

I need to draw closer to Him.

~ Jesus ~

be my focus

be my center

be my reason

be my hope

be my guide

be my strength

be my future

be my joy

be my song

be my life

At this point, I would like to tell you, in God, all things are possible. Amen!

There is no need of explanation.

What a day..... it went mess up just for some arrangements of an event, that was crap!

I am not good at communication, at all. I am not good in handling relationship especially when problems rise, social skill fails all the time, what more? Complicated.....

Or perhaps I need to learn and tried to understand her, and try to think how she will feel in her position.... yeah, that is really sad, if I were her, I will feel like this: "I am not being respected, and what a mess is this whole thing, can't you all have a good discussion first before approaching me? After I have been planed everything, and now you just called off the event, and this is already the second time!!" wow, I think I can hear her heart screaming out loud..... hmmm so sorry about that, I can really understand why she made it clear that she wants to play no more part in program. I think I will be as sad as her, as mad as her. Understood.

But if something I can explain, I am willing to, I believe most of the time, it doesn't work, the damage has been caused.

Can these be reasons?

This is a long story, trying to state it down clearly and slowly.

I am busy serving in church, sometimes going out with friends, I have a few options to allocate Gab, he stays at home alone, or going to his uncle's house. Sometimes he likes to be at home, he could be homesick at times , other times he will be at my brother's house, and he loved to be there as he could play Wii games, or X-box, and also playing together with cousins.

And I was told it is not that good to put him there as he will feel bad when he sees others have father to love them and blaa blaa blaa... and if I put him there often, he will feel rejection. Here are the main two reasons that I really don't count it as reasons.

First, he is being raised in a single parent family, which he is in it, he has got to accept it, and learn to over come it. I do care about his feeling, indeed very much, I will ask of his feeling once awhile, we'll talk about how life is being a single parent family. And will quote him a few Bible verses and share about testimony, or talked about movie character whenever there is a relevant topic.

I asked him if he feels bad when he sees others have papa to love, to stay together, he stopped and thought for a moment, he nodded. And from here I talked to him being positive over it, God has a special plan for us, we have to live it up to be one of great testimonies, not to take it as a blame or fall into self-pityness. This is also what I shared with others, I don't have a husband, do I have to fall into rejection and feel sad whenever I see a couple?

I can't change the situation, but we can accept to be who we are, instead of blaming for who are we. And he is being placed in this family, he has got to learn in this hard way (again), to always take care of his emotional is no doubt important, but not to the extend that every time, every place, every situation, every people we meet, Gab needs to learn how to overcome it, not just protect him from not being 'harmed'.

Rejection? I assured him countless of times that I love him. And he has to learn to be grateful to what he has, not to blame for what he doesn't have. He has a father, he just doesn't stay with us, he has a mother, he has a home, he has a nice house.

I don't know, can these be reasons? Are they reasons? I have no solution for this, this is simply base on my personality, my understanding and my lifestyle, just as my situation, I have to learn it in a hard way.

God is gracious enough, because He holds us in His arms.

Indeed, not that hard as compared to others, we are already so blessed. Give thanks to the Lord, at least we have Him.

'Spend time' session, we have this, we spend time together for making drinks, playing music, movie talk, Bible talk, nonsense talk, shopping, dinner at restaurant..... not the lack.

I just hope that he will appreciate every single thing I do for him. Being gratefulness is the key.

称赞的威力。

当孩子被称赞时,我们应当尽量谢谢那些称赞的话语，适当的称赞让小孩子们做得更好，最起码对他们的努力以及付出的肯定，唤起孩子对生命的自信与热爱。 可以的话，我们称赞他们的品德于态度而不是成绩。 那么就不怕他们会因为成绩以骄傲了。